I have struggled with alopecia areata my whole life, well since I was three. Now at 24 I feel that I have made peace with it and accept the uncertainty of my appearance. In the past few months I have developed totalis. Although I have accepted it and am trying to move on, my husband and 5 year old daughter do not know how to. My husband tries to be supportive and not affected by it, but he is and I can tell. It usually comes out in weird places, like critiques of my dressing, or his sudden physical attention when I am wearing a wig, like all the sudden he sees me again. My daughter is scared to death of me going out in public with her without wearing a hat or wig. I don't know how to deal with it. I know for them this is new and unexplored territory and scary. They try to support me, by telling me the new wig looks nice or that hat looks good, showing me possible dietary option that might help, but I am tired of hiding me and I am tired of having hope of being "normal". I want to not worry about wearing a hat or wig. I want my alopecia to be ok for everyone and stop trying to make everyone feel less awkward or better about it. I have been making everyone else feel better since I was 3 and am sick of feeling like I need to. I am done apologizing, explaining, hiding, and being medically experimented on to make myself change into someone that is "normal". Does anyone else feel this way and/or have advice on how to deal with coming out of the closet?