Comment by Michelle on February 24, 2016 at 10:20pm

Thank you soo much for your comment @mmassella ! The cold hard truth isn't it? Thank you for that. I love the analogy and will keep your words in mind when I do it. I guess the saying "be comfortable with the uncomfortable" really applies here. God I can see myself breaking down in public already!lol but I suppose that is when I'll have to pat myself on the back mentally for doing it haha. Are you happy with the fact that you made the decision to bare it all? Do you feel liberated? Tell me how did this change you?

Comment by Ravi on February 25, 2016 at 12:29am

Very Correct because life never stops and second thing we can not live with a thought what other think about me .In starting i also feel inferior BTW the peoples. But later i realise that  life is about making your own happiness and what you think in your that reflects outside ..So always be happy,feel happy ,and live happily Always be yourself have faith yourself and express yourself.Just do what you like not what others like.We all from different city states or nation but attached wd a strong feeling. And also your friend and family always there to support u.

Comment by Michelle on February 25, 2016 at 1:11am

So true on every level Ravi. Life is what you make of it, and we're gonna live it to the fullest :) I like that you said that it's what you think of you that reflects outside
That's really well put and making me think!! What can I show the world by being me? What message do I want to send? Perhaps we can allow everyone around us to feel good too. Thank you!

Comment by Ravi on February 25, 2016 at 4:08am

So happy .Gud going n one thing i also want 2 add that in starting u may find difficulty to face the crowd but trust me nobody thinks of any one infect no one has time to think. So you are pretty princess of your world   So never feel down take care. :) (*_*)!!!

Comment by Return_life on February 25, 2016 at 11:08am

Hi Michelle, hopefully everything went okay for you today.

for me, I did take that step when I was in University... it was HARD. lol. you need courage, real courage. Suddenly showing that bald head to others is important for us alopecians, a big moment in our life. I took baby steps in the beginning. I had my hat next to me in case I didn't feel confortable or if I saw someone in particular. It is very delicate for some of us, so I think it is important not to rush it. go at your rhythm. Once you are able to achieve this, you become a much stronger person. little problems don't mean anything.

Same for work environment. In the beginning, I though I was never going to find a job, have a normal career, etc... I was wrong.

let us know how it went Michelle.

Comment by Cheryl, Co-founder on February 26, 2016 at 3:36am

Hi Michelle,  I too worked in stages.  I started at a NAAF conference, the following year I left my wig at home for the conference, then I started around home, then to do errands, then I joined a new gym and started wearing bandanas to the gym from the start.  The hardest was when I went out with my friends for the first time.  Work was the last place.  What I did for work, I went to the company Christmas party without a wig and then after that I stopped wearing them.  It was not easy but I think it was well worth it.

Comment by Sharalexis on February 26, 2016 at 4:04am

Hello fellow pecies, I am 58 (59 next mo :) ) and my "juicy" days all long past; but on warm days I just go for it. I figure what the heck, if the alopecia kids can face middle school and high school bald what are the chances an ole girl like me will have a bad time of it...know what I mean?

Comment by Jess on February 26, 2016 at 3:15pm

Hi,
My first time going bald in public was in my last year of school. I get panic attacks sometimes and there was this one day where it got quite bad, I went to the sick Bay Area and asked if I could take my wig off becuase I thought at the time that it was contributing to my anxiety. The lady in charge was okay with it and we had a conversation about whether I should or not go bald. Eventually she convinced me and I just walked out into the main school building without my wig. It was quite nerve wracking at first but everyone else was really great about it. They were all very supportive. However it was perhaps a decision I made too hastily becuase eventually my anxiety got the better of me and after a few months I just didn't feel comfortable anymore, it wasn't really what people thought of my physical self but what they thought about me health wise. Some people assumed I was dying and I found that quite overwhelming. What I am trying to say is, really think about it. Don't let others push you to make a quick decision. Only do it if you think you can handle it and if you are ready But it doesn't matter if you like wearing your wig. Some people are more comfortable being anonymous in public. It takes time to build that type of confidence. Do what you want to do.

Comment by Toxicmosquitoaf on February 26, 2016 at 3:23pm

For me the breaking point was when I couldnt do sports with a wig. So with the help of sport I one day decided to stop wearing wig, and I had alot of help from my coach who introduced my hair condition to other teammates and they were really great about it. So from then on I started going bold everywhere (school, bus, party, etc.)

Comment by Michelle on February 26, 2016 at 3:48pm

Thank you so much for all your responses i really apreciate it! @Jess thanks for giving another perspective. I will keep in mind to respect myself and my pace and to not be hard on myself if some days are harder than others-if some days I don't feel up to it. Baby steps! @cheryl you are beautiful and inspiring your eyes glisten with joy. You are exactly the example I want to follow. Thanks for sharing your experience. @Return_life, @sharalexis and @the_flyest, good job you guys!! You have taken a big step and most likely the most challenging one of all. Eventually, you will no longer think of it at all. Bravo for taking that leap to self-acceptance.

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