Comment by Alexandra on November 16, 2009 at 10:45am

Unfortunately alopecia is very unpredictable. Its patterns really make very little sense. I go through the same type of thing with my female pattern baldness. One day I'll lose 2 hairs after the shower and then the next day I'll lose 200. It's frustrating, I know. Try to keep your head up. You've been through this before and you look gorgeous in your pictures! And as for the people who are blaming you? No offense to them, but they're clueless. I know people who think that my hair loss is all under my control, I'm just not trying hard enough apparently. But these types of people don't know what it's like to deal with alopecia. So unless they have M.D. attached to their name, I try not to take them too seriously when they start passing judgements like that.
If ever you need someone to talk to, I'm here.
Alexandra

Comment by Andrea on November 16, 2009 at 12:40pm

Carol, I just read your profile so I am up to speed. I think (and I could very well be wrong) that the core issue is you are still relatively new to loss in your life...the kind that change your perception of yourself. I have been there. I've noticed that with any kind of loss condition, it requires the same process of mourning as a death: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance (not necessarily in that order). Basically it's a process that everyone must go through at some point in their lives. As you travel the road of alopecia, you are likely to look back on your journey and see things in your life that were only able to come into your life BECAUSE of the alopecia. That's finding the blessing in the mire. In the meantime, it's realistic to go through your stages of grief. Your feelings are valid and you are entitled to them, but do not let this rob you of who you are. Blessings :-)

Comment by Cal on November 16, 2009 at 2:48pm

I'm so sorry, Carol. Rant away, though, my love. It does suck royally at times and it's OK to hate it and shout and cry. I'm quite sure we've all been there, multiple times. I hope you can come through this rough patch soon and regain some of the calm that comes across in your profile quotes. It will happen, just ride it out and be very good to yourself in the meantime.

Comment by Mary on November 16, 2009 at 2:59pm

Hang in there, Carol. As Andrea said, there are stages that you will go through, and you WILL come out the other end of this tunnel with strength and acceptance. It's normal to be upset and angry, just take it one day at a time. And, don't believe it when people try to blame you! Lots of children lose their hair due to Alopecia Areata, and people don't blame them. We can't control the progress of this disease, but we can stop it from controlling us.

Comment by Brandy Snap on November 17, 2009 at 7:28am

My mum was saying it was my fault because I coloured my hair.

Comment by Julia McDowell on November 17, 2009 at 8:25am

Mine too! She still does, bless!

Comment by Paula on November 21, 2009 at 1:27pm

oh, carol! i'm sorry to hear that. is it happening the same way?

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