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Just feeling blah!
This past weekend was my 37th birthday and I have a great boyfriend in my life, but he often thinks of himself before he thinks of me. I was not so happy that I had to spend almost an entire day with his friends whose lives revolve around drinking so much they make you want to punch them. I am trying really hard to stay away from people who bring negativity to my life. My bf has a drinking problem and over the past year he has been doing pretty good at limiting himself. The people he calls his friends don't know when enough is enough and I have a really hard time pulling him out of situations. I feel that his friends don't look out for his best interest. I am not sure how to deal with people when they don't know when it is time to stop or time to go. I am a passive person so it is hard to stand my ground or maybe I should say people just don't take me seriously. I guess I felt a bit invisible over my birthday weekend which kind of depressed me. I am trying so hard to be happy and stay positive so my alopecia will turn around. I feel stress coming upon me. This is the only place right now I feel people really listen.
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Comment by Norm on June 1, 2010 at 2:23pm
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Hi Dana, happy birthday (if a day or two late!) 37, huh... I was only 35 when I was that age. Comes of being born when I was very young, apparently. :)
Anyway, The BF: a tad thoughtless of him not to make YOU the centre of attention there, methinks. Was this actually your big day, or had he already done/was planning something special? I'm a bit torn, with not knowing more.... on the one hand, he should be more considerate, knowing how you feel. On the other, maybe it's not so bad to ease off the reins now and then, as long as he also did something for you on your day...
Bottom Line: don't stress over something that's already happened. You can't change it. You can, however, influence what happens in the future.... as long as he's willing to go along with it. Yeah? :)
His pals won't be deliberately trying to be a bad influence on him... they're just being themselves, The Lads, and not thinking much at all, really. So don't be too hard on them.
Anyway, Stay Cool. That's right.... sit near the fridge. :)
Later!
The Norm xx
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Comment by Carmen Dayhoff on June 1, 2010 at 4:11pm
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I think a Birthday week is in order, or at the very least, B'day do over! Don't let ppl like that ruin ur day. U hv the power in U to hv a happy day, no matter the day. And u deserve Happiness!
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Comment by Dana Kozlowski on June 1, 2010 at 5:00pm
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I love your ideas and thanks for making me smile! Norm~ I always stay cool or at least try to.
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Comment by Tallgirl on June 1, 2010 at 10:41pm
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I give myself birthday gifts that help me...like, new wig, choosing a new church to attend, doctor appointment, etc. Maybe you could attend an Al-Anon meeting to see if it could help! What a gift it would be to be with others who do NOT like all that drinking...
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Comment by Jessica on June 3, 2010 at 2:56pm
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Aww to bad Dana... that does stink. your the birthday girl afterall. Too bad I didn't meet you sooner, I was just in Indi. Noblesville this past weekend. I love meeting new Alopecia Friends. I help run a loca support group here in Chicago, mostly a bunch of us that like to get together for whatever bowling, dinner etc. etc.... Nothing better then hanging with people that know what your going through. This site has really done wonders for me. Hey if your in the area at the end of the month we are headed to the NAFF convention. I can't attend the whole thing because I have 4 kids and not sitter. But will be getting together for dinner a night or two.
Well anyway lets just say it's your birthday week, so he can make it up to you...lol
take care Dana
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