Where acceptance is all there is!
I thought i was coping with this ok... i thought i was accepting it... but today was bad, we are going out to the bar tomorrow, and its the first time since i shaved my head. i barely wear my wig now because i hate the feeling of it so much, so i figured i could find something to wear to make it look amazing without hair.. but everything looks ten times better when i put my wig on... i picked out a dress, and then put the wig on and my friends said, and i also agreed, that it looks way better! But i hate it... i just cried.. its not fair.. why cant i have hair... even if at some point it does grow back its going to take forever to grow in.. to the length i want.. Am i ever going to be able to accept this.. how long does it take because im tired of feeling that i look like an idiot
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Hang in there. I was like this for about a year. It gets better.
oooh, i know what you should do the next time you go out to the bar. then i'm not gonna comment anymore, i promise. get all your friends to go out with you to buy fun, party wigs in awesome colors. then you can ALL wear party wigs out! do it.
i meant to say this too...it's not fair. i hate it too. some days i don't care and i love how i look and how fast i can get ready!! some days i cry and scream and throw wigs and hats and scarves. what i hate more than anything is how many times i hit my head on stuff- i never used to hit my head. hair must be like cat whiskers.
Hi. I just wanted to say that i shaved my head for the first time this year, in may. my new favorite things are newsboy hats and big earrings. it's harder to find hats since i get a little weirded out trying them on in the store by myself...but u can't try on a hat with a wig on! u need the perfect fit to work the hat with a bald head. or maybe you can learn how to re-size hats. all that to say- hats and earrings...and maybe awesome eye make-up...or just red lipstick.
Hi! Grandma Kay here. Coming up on 10 years with alopecia. Right now I can grow patches of white hair but not for me--prefer shaving my head. Have @ 40 hats, mostly newsboy. Also 3 wigs which are comfortable now but not so in Texas for 9 months of HOT! My spouse is super and supports whatever I choose for the moment. My grandkids took a few weeks for acceptance but that was a few years ago. Realize when you are going to turn 70 on Sunday, the opinions of others do not make or break the day. Having alopecia is not life-threatening--praise the Lord!
HI there...it is very hard. I have really good days and then big crashes. Like Rose Marie said it takes time for your inside to catch up with your outside. Be patient and kind to yourself. You are doing better than you think. I think with wigs it takes time to find the right brand, style, etc. that is comfortable. Don't give up on them either. If there is a wig shop nearby it would help to go and try on a bunch to find a comfortable one. Hang in there. You might want to visit a site called wigsupport.com. They can tell you everything you would want to know about hair pieces.
I have a hot fake-fur Russian-looking fashion hat, comfortable and lined, that I wear for winter parties sometimes. Great make-up (at mall?) and jewelry...warm, too. Try it.
It hits you in waves. You will have good days and bad days. I think you should find a better feeling wig. My daughter's has become part of her. She is not comfortable without it on. She wears all lace wigs, and she knows she is gorgeous in it. Maybe that would help.
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