Comment by Shereka Moore on June 14, 2010 at 8:45am

You have to remember, what happened to you is not your fault. While it is not your fault, you have to cope with the situation the best you can. Look deep inside yourself. You said that you realized that you were the only woman in the restaraunt without hair. It's a hard long journey, but sometimes we want what other people may have. I'm trying to hold my emotions together because I understand your pain. I don't know if I ever will get completely over not having all of my hair, but no matter what I have to remember that it's not there and I have to continue to live my life :-). Go ahead and cry it will help you feel better. You have every right to grieve about losing your hair. Women have always been defined by having hair, that's the type of society we live in! Hold your head high and focus on your other strengths.

Comment by Mary on June 14, 2010 at 11:36am

You're going to have these setbacks...I did, too, when I started going out in public bald. I still sometimes get angry sitting in a restaurant or theater full of women with hair. I start down the "Why me?" path.

But, those feelings are getting to be less of a problem as I become more comfortable in my skin (literally!) and more confident that I'm unique and have my own kind of beauty. For me, it's all about acceptance and trying to move on.

Comment by Petra on June 14, 2010 at 2:31pm

I understand completely what you are saying. Although I have had alopecia for many many years I just started going out with a scarf on my head. I thought I was doing pretty fine with it and then the other day I just didn't want to do this anymore. I didn't want to be the girl that wears the scarf or the wig. I think that it's pretty normal to feel like this though - I know that I'll work pass it and so will you. We will just have days or moments like that and that's o.k.

Comment by Roslyn on June 14, 2010 at 6:27pm

thank you all so much for allowing me to have a brief pitty party. your words of encouragement really helped me through the day

Comment by Elizabeth on November 6, 2010 at 7:05pm

If you don't mind my asking, how long have you been married ?

Comment by Roslyn on November 6, 2010 at 9:26pm

Hi Elizebeth,no I don't mind you asking. It will be 14 years on 12/26

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