Comment by Tallgirl on December 5, 2011 at 8:58pm

Hey, I used to go 6 years between crushes until 31, when I got married. I dated safe friends from church camp. Why don't you take the pressure off and just go out on group outings??? Who knows what friendships, trust, laughs, support friends and real emotions can be built in a non-threatening way over a year????

Comment by Cheryl, Co-founder on December 5, 2011 at 10:16pm

Tallgirl, has some good ideas.

I also think that sometimes it is going to take us stepping out of our comfort zone. Included is the realization that it is not always going to be easy.

For example, understanding and preparing yourself for the possibility of rejection. Stepping out of your comfort zone IS going to be uncomfortable at times. But go in knowing that you will be able to handle it.

For example, when I started dating again, I realized that realistically not everybody was going to like or even be ok with the fact I have alopecia. I didn’t go in blind believing that all was going to be well. But I did go in believe that I would be ok and able to handle it if it didn’t.

We all have more to “offer” than just what grows out of your scalp, so don’t just focus on that one aspect of your life.

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“We cannot become what we want to be by remaining what we are.” ~Max DePree~

Comment by Nachiketa Sanyal on December 5, 2011 at 10:32pm

hey i've noticed some handsome guys guys on this website too.. try meeting them.. :)

Comment by Deana DG on December 6, 2011 at 3:03pm

I have had alopecia since I am 9. I too never dated in HS but I had lots of friends. If they asked I would tell them other then that I let people assume what ever they wanted. I had my first real relationship from 18-20 and he just loved me for who I am. When that relationship ended I still dated, you could even call me a serial dater but never was with anyone I felt comfortable enough to tell about my Alopecia until I met my husband. I told him really early into the relationship and he said he was more concerned with me being a Yankee fan....lol. You will know when you have that someone special that will love you no matter what but you need to put yourself out there and test the waters. And if you think you have the right guy and tell him about your alopecia and he can't except you for who you are then that most likely isn't the type of person you want to be with anyway.

Comment by Anastasia on December 6, 2011 at 6:19pm

Thank you so much for all the great suggestions

Comment by Cheryl, Co-founder on December 6, 2011 at 6:39pm

Also, if you want to know what kind of a man you are looking for, you may want to read through the Men Who Don't Mind Groups discussions. It will remind you that good men are out there and perhaps what they are actually looking for. Good Luck Anastasia ;)

Comment by Anastasia on December 7, 2011 at 12:35am

Thanks Cheryl =)

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