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Well, that wasn't very nice
So as I said in my past blog, my hair is gone again. People at my job for the most part all know I have Alopecia, I can't give it to them, and I don't hide my head under scarves and hats and wigs, its just not me. I'm comfortable with myself and the way I look...so anyways I work in the mailroom of a large government building, so I see lots of people a day. This guy from our IT department, that I see a LOT since hes 2 offices down from me and is always shipping computer equipment, came in and the first thing he says is, "Oh...your bald again." I just kind of looked at him, and said 'yea, it feel out again." Then he asked me if I'm going to buy any wigs. I told him no, they itch, and I just don't feel comfortable in them. He then hands me a box, says "I'm sure your boyfriend would prefer you to wear a wig, I know I would." and walked out of the mailroom...ummm...first off, thank GOD I am NOT your girlfriend!!! Second off...that wasn't a very nice thing to say...was he trying to say I look ugly bald? Luckily my goal in life is not to impress him, because apparently I would be failing miserably. I get compliments on my look and my confidence all the time, but when someone says something like that, THATS what gets stuck in my head. One negative takes up the space of all the positives. I told my boyfriend later on in the car and he looked at me and said, "I love you bald or with hair down to your feet, your hair doesn't make you the person you are." Even after my boyfriends kind words, I was still a little mad about what the guy said. I honestly think some people need to go back to a kindergarden classroom so a teacher can tell them what they should already know...If you don't have anything nice to say, KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT!!! I might have changed that around a little bit...but you get what I'm saying ;) Hope everyone is doing well!!
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Comment by Diana Carter on February 10, 2011 at 12:42pm
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Hi Tamara! It's amazing what can come out of peoples mouths!!! I still remember my best friend in high school telling me (just out of the shower, with wet hair) that I looked like a dude. :( OUCH!!! That really hurt, and I never told her so..but I still remember her words, and I know she never thought twice about them. Words really can hurt us. Just try to remember, true beauty comes from within ourselves, and reflects outwardly. If beauty is in the eye of the beholder, then I am beholding a very beautiful woman in you!!! There are many here that KNOW it is so...you ARE BEAUTIFUL!! I totally agree with Alice..."You are so beautiful and no matter what he ever does to improve his looks if he does not improve his personality he will ALWAYS be UGLY!!!"
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Comment by Norm on February 10, 2011 at 1:11pm
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Well, as an I.T. guy myself of 34 years' standing, I have to say I agree with Paul J.... I have no social skills whatsoever. In fact, I had to work really hard to become as boorish and insensitive as I am now. But y'know what? It means I can just say stuff without thinking, and then listen to the birds flying around in my head.... tra-la-la...
Actually, you find that kind of behaviour in all the scientific-type areas... peeps are so wrapped up in the tech (and have been since school) that they maybe got ostracised by others and never developed those bonding mechanisms. So maybe we should feel a bit sorry for them, cos they've had plenty of rejections by society, too.
In this case, it souns to me like the guy simply made a statement and never even imagined it might cause offence, similar to saying "nice car, but I think I'd prefer it in red". Best to just let this one go, T... people make hurtful comments to others without thinking, whether you've got hair or not.
But, maybe you could mention to him that as an IT guy, he should know that going around making bird calls isn't actually what Twitter is all about? :) Hee-hee!
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Comment by Tamara on February 21, 2011 at 7:05am
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lol
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Comment by Angie on February 24, 2011 at 3:02pm
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Hey Tamara!
Hope your doing good. I just read your post. That guy is such a $&%&^Y. I wish I was there. I just thought of a million things to say to him. Heads up!
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Hey just don't know you have sisters and brother all over the world!
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Thanks Angie! He's being nice to me now...I wonder if maybe he thought about what he said? I dont know...he complimented me on my watch the other day...weirdo, lol
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Good. That makes me happy, maybe he did think about how much of a ^&&%&$# he was or maybe he know about all you sisters and brothers all over the world.LOL Will I'm glad, who needs to go to work every day with a $^%&^^E#
Have a great day!
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