What embarrasses me most is not that I am as bald as an eagle, but the way that I've handled it over the years.
I mean...it is JUST hair...whenever I fail to make a big deal of it, the rest of the world follows suit.
I met a girl once who is stark bald, and never - ever wears a wig. She is probably the most beautiful and fashionable girl I've ever known, and her make-up is always picture perfect. When someone asks her why she doesn't have any hair she just smiles and says.."I shave it off".
and when they ask "Why?" she responds..."because I like the look"
It really is just that simple.
I wanted to be this girl's friend so badly, but she didn't even give me the time of day, even though I was all like "hey, I have no hair also!!! I think you are so fantastic!!". But she just shrugged her shoulers, said thank you, and kept it moving....wow...what a girl.
If I had grown up with hair (like the other 96% of the world), I would still have to deal with pain and suffering...I mean insecurity is not exclusive to alopecians!!!
Does it really make us so different because we don't have hair? Or is our shame the only thing that holds us back?? Of course there will always be people who look and laugh, but ummm -- like (pardon my French) well, Fuck them!!!
I am so over being insecure!!!
My experience is that it IS all about my attitude. I've found that when I go out in public bald and act like it's no big deal and completely normal to be a bald woman (which it IS, for me), smile, hold my head up and go about my business....other people seem to have the same attitide.
July 19, 2009!