What embarrasses me most is not that I am as bald as an eagle, but the way that I've handled it over the years.

I mean...it is JUST hair...whenever I fail to make a big deal of it, the rest of the world follows suit.

I met a girl once who is stark bald, and never - ever wears a wig. She is probably the most beautiful and fashionable girl I've ever known, and her make-up is always picture perfect. When someone asks her why she doesn't have any hair she just smiles and says.."I shave it off".

and when they ask "Why?" she responds..."because I like the look"

It really is just that simple.

I wanted to be this girl's friend so badly, but she didn't even give me the time of day, even though I was all like "hey, I have no hair also!!! I think you are so fantastic!!". But she just shrugged her shoulers, said thank you, and kept it moving....wow...what a girl.

If I had grown up with hair (like the other 96% of the world), I would still have to deal with pain and suffering...I mean insecurity is not exclusive to alopecians!!!

Does it really make us so different because we don't have hair? Or is our shame the only thing that holds us back?? Of course there will always be people who look and laugh, but ummm -- like (pardon my French) well, Fuck them!!!

I am so over being insecure!!!

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Comment by Mike on May 24, 2009 at 4:23pm
Great post! You are right...fail to make a big deal out of it and the rest of the world follows suit. I lost my hair nearly two years ago and while it was a shock to many at first, those same people say I would look weird with hair now. I do too. BALD and loving it!
Comment by Jackie on May 24, 2009 at 4:34pm
Glad you liked it Mike -- now my next challenge: Practicing what I preach :P!
Comment by Mary on May 25, 2009 at 4:23pm
Right on! (showing my age, there) Check out the National Bald Out group if you haven't. There are also some wonderful posts (and wonderful women) on this subject on the Sisterhood of Women Who Shaved group.

My experience is that it IS all about my attitude. I've found that when I go out in public bald and act like it's no big deal and completely normal to be a bald woman (which it IS, for me), smile, hold my head up and go about my business....other people seem to have the same attitide.

July 19, 2009!
Comment by Camille Reinecker on May 25, 2009 at 9:30pm
i used to hide but now I am all about being natural and comfortable.I guess you could say I am out of the wig closet and I dont care who knows it. :o) (I know... I couldnt help it)
Comment by Mary on May 25, 2009 at 10:04pm
Love it, Camille! It's a new catch phrase. Check out my Announcing the National Bald Out! video on YouTube at the 1:17 minute mark. I think we should get some T-shirts made that say "Out of the Wig Closet".
Comment by Lee on May 25, 2009 at 11:01pm
Maybe someday u and I can go out bald one day...Ive never done it...would be a gigantic step for me!!
Comment by Mary on May 25, 2009 at 11:15pm
The first time I was with bald women in public was at a Bald Girls Do Lunch event. Check out Baldgirlsdolunch.org to see where and when upcoming events are. You can also look at photos from events around the country - wonderful to see all the bald women out in public!
Comment by Melissa Harris on May 26, 2009 at 11:30pm
LOL You go girl! That made me smile!! :)


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