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Where are the friends now?
I have noticed that after I have told people I have known for years about my AA they just don't bother with me anymore it's like I have a virus they are going to catch of me. I feel so alone at times I try to be my bubbly self when I am around people as to not be a burdan are they scared of me or what. I am not sure if anyone else has had this happen but it is very hurtfull it just makes you feel so rejected from sociaty like I'm a lepper or something. And if I hear one more comment it's just hair seriously I might kill someone do they understand what other effects this has on a person loosing their hair. Sorry I just nead to vent my disappointment today on friends reactions to AA. I find that if I go out and wear a bandana people I don't know look at me and smile and start talking to me like they feel sorry for me because I might have cancer. But the friends I have that I have only told over the phone say I'm sorry to hear that (AA) have they come to see me NO have they rang to see how I am doing NO. Ok got that out of my system do I feel better not really. But I needed to get it out of my system to people who might understand. Thanks guys for being here to listen to me.
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Comment by Annette on January 13, 2013 at 12:23am
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Oh thank you so much I don't know your name but thank you I cryed when I read your response not a bad cry a happy cry because you understand me thank you soooo much I will google the poem.
Annette
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Comment by Tallgirl on January 13, 2013 at 2:10pm
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Some people have hidden squirmishness that doesn't surface until they are face-to-face with a choice involving their prejudice, be it racial, physical, fakey prestige on who-I-want-to-be-seen-with, etc. Some are sick of hearing about medical issues or baldness, and equate us to griping Gollums or something. I have learned to:
Drop the squirmish people
Stay with the true friends and humans
Wear a wig around people in work or crowd situations to keep focus off of us/me
Just live life normally, talking about other subjects.For those who think I am icky due to hair loss...it is really THEIR loss. I can run circles around most of them with all I have done and accomplished in my life, artistically and educationally, through travel and awareness, etc. I wouldn't even want to BE them, so no problem ignoring them at the parties and sitting with the fun, accepting souls. So many years ahead, and so many better friends to find...
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Comment by Tracy M on January 15, 2013 at 10:17am
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The same has happen to me. But it has made me stronger and more determined. Looking back at the people in school that called me"wig woman", later they have ask me out on a date? Can you believe that? I found a wonderful husband and now it's like it never happened. He builds me up. Eliminate all negative people out of your life. I find that some women are just jealous. They would look better if they would put a wig on! Ha.
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Comment by Abgail on January 15, 2013 at 10:52pm
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Kick those who don't care out of your life!you don't need them.You are beautiful with or without hair. Most of the good friends I have they understand and help me out...They knew me before hair loss and after hairloss they treated me the same way.... As a good friend. I had people telling me its just hair but I tell them its not the hair that makes it difficult its the people. The amount of things that has been said I will never forget nor will I ever forget how some of the them acted around me in highschoool. I can live with the baldness not THE comments!
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Comment by ruth on January 16, 2013 at 6:19pm
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ack why do ppl have to be like that that is lousy dont know how i would feel if my friends did that chin up in cherish the friends u still have any u have lost its their loss not urs
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