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Help on shaving my son's head-we are having problems
Hi!
My name is Brittany and my son's name is Lane. Lane has had AA since the age of 3 (he is 6 now) and I have been shaving him going on 3 years. Lane never gets completely bald so he loves to be shaved. Well, lately when I shave him it is hurting or pulling his hair. I have always used the same items: Gillette Fusion razor and Gillette shaving cream. I don't ever let the razor get close to being dull- I throw it out almost half way through. I was hoping someone could help me out with this. Thanks guys.
My name is Brittany and my son's name is Lane. Lane has had AA since the age of 3 (he is 6 now) and I have been shaving him going on 3 years. Lane never gets completely bald so he loves to be shaved. Well, lately when I shave him it is hurting or pulling his hair. I have always used the same items: Gillette Fusion razor and Gillette shaving cream. I don't ever let the razor get close to being dull- I throw it out almost half way through. I was hoping someone could help me out with this. Thanks guys.
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Permalink Reply by Brittany Bullard on
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Hey
I went and got one of the HeadBlades and he shaved himself for the first time Friday night!!!!! He nicked himself once but loved doing it himself. The problem again was he/me could only get half way done before the sides and lower back was killing him. I tried reapplying shaving cream with no luck. He tried his hardest but we couldn't finish. It's hard b/c then he has hair in spots -with jet black hair it really shows. Which he has spots that show anyways with the roots being so dark. Thank you so much for you response. Have a fabulous
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Permalink Reply by Jane on
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You should have a pediatric dermatologist examin him for dermatital associations with the AA. But, stop shaving him in case he has small lesions that you can't see.
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We have stopped shaving him. He explained to me on Sunday that he wants hair!!!! It broke my heart. I don't know if something happened to have him change his mind. We talked to him about it but he said it's nothing, he justs wants to see how much will grow. He is having more come out in the back-he has none in the front/top. He said he wants to be ablet to comb hair like his brother.
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Permalink Reply by BaldGirlsDoLunch.org on
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Remember, too, that kids are kids and they have fluctuations about all things. Just let him do whatever he wants. His mom being on his side is key. No need to create parent-child frictions. When peer pressure sets in, he'll be on to another way of doing things yet again.
Try to see every aspect of his changing view of his hair as a phase..like bottles, toilet training, teenagers with messy rooms.....they're all phases and they have an end in their own time.
Let him do whatever gives him a sense of individuality/ control, etc . At another point in time, conformity is normal and he will want to do yet something else.
More important than how his hair looks at any point in time is how he feels 100% friction-free with his parents....the groundwork of that relationship lasts a lifetime.
As a parent we want to fix everything and make it ok...but sometimes it's much better to zip our lip, step back, sit tight and wait for our kids to show us how they're better able to grow up without so many of our 'interventions'. If the core values are there, he'll be fine...so long as his parents can weather it.
Much of how kids handle their alopecia is part of their normal childhood development.
It will be ok....let him show you the way.
Thea
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Thank you so much for this, I needed it. Friday at school they are having wacky hair day and he has begged not to go. I tried telling him differnet things we could do but it doesn't want to go. He said I don't hair so what can I do. He has some in the back and I told him we could do a number of things but he is not going for it.
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Permalink Reply by Tammy Newcomb on
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My boys (ages 11 and 13) do not have Alopecia, but I have been shaving their heads ever since they were toddlers. I just find that a shaved head is so much easier to care for than a head of hair. My mom always shaved my brothers heads with a clipper, only then we called it a "Butch" haircut. During the winter months, she would allow the top to grow a half-inch or so, stand it up with butch wax, and clipper it flat across for a crew-cut. (I do this with my boys as well in the winter). During the summer months, though, I use an Andis electric clipper with a #00000 blade. This shaves the hair almost completely to the skin, leaving only 1/250 of an inch. I know you said your boy is letting his hair grow now, but should you decide to shave it again, please keep the Andis clipper with the #00000 blade in mind as this clipper very easily and smoothly shaves the hair off right down to the skin with no pulling or discomfort!
Tammy
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Thank you for mentioning this Andis clipper and blade. I don't know when we will ever get to shaving him again. He has no interest at all. He had a Valentine's dance and he let my husband clean him up a bit. He has none up top and some on sides and back. The part at the crown was starting to stand straight up! He says he wants hair and hoping that it will grow. Friday is Wacky hair day and he is having a hard time with it. He said he doesn't want to go. I am really praying for his understanding and that he will become at peace again with AA. He saw a commerical too on cancer and turned around and asked me if this is what he had. I explained what cancer was and how people with cancer lose hair and explained again what AA was. He knows but still questions what is going on. I am just supporting him with whichever decision he makes.
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HI Brittany-
To help your son and his friends in school, do you have the materials from the Childrens Alopecia Project? In my experience, parents prefer them to the very tired, unattractive materials from another organization. You can order really cute logo items with the CAP Kids insignia. April 12( or is it 14?) is Children's Alopecia Day..contact CAP4U@verizon.net and talk to Betsy.
That other org which begins with N has a video that was the most depressing "ominous" voice-over I have ever heard, not to mention amateurish production value. I would never show it to anyone let alone children. So be forewarned and pre-screen it yourself. I think it's better to show something really good and positive or not show anything at all.
Thea
baldgirlsdolunch.org
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I don't. I will get on and check it out. I have pamplets and other material from the NAAF but his teacher didn't want to give it out!! She didn't even want to give out the letter I wrote to the parents. She said she wanted to wait till something came up to send them out. If I knew what I know now I would have told her NO that I wanted them to go home on the first day of school. Everyone has been very good about him having AA at school (we have had a few situations) so I'm not really sure what has him changing. I guess just seeing his brother with long hair and brushing it. He just wants to be like his big bro. Thank you so much for all your helpful information.
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Just remember there's no timeline you have to follow. And as with all things related to our kids, alopecia or not, you get unlimited do-overs. Say the wrong thing? no worries..you always get plenty more chances to say the same thing again with a twist. When I was his age I wanted to dress in the same t-shirt and shorts like my brother, 3 years older than me, since I idolized him. And at the same age, I went crazy if my mother didn't get a brush through my thick ponytail "just-so". Then the following year I didn't want her touching it at all. Kid stuff. As a teen I never looked right in her eyes, ever....so just go with the flow and don't take any of it personally. Ask him in what other ways he can list that he can be similar or different from his sibs....not even putting any value judgement on the subject of hair.
So same with teacher/school.....there is no reason you cannot revisit the issue with a changed perspective. I feel that the teacher has no inate right to control your information flow. Now that you know more, you can get back that control.
Parents? You don't need the school's permission to contact parents you know personally and bring them up to speed. There is always one point person who you can rely on to spread the word for you, too. Sometimes the biggest blabbermouth is an asset.
I also like the free "About Alpecia Areata" booklet from NIAMS . You can get unlimited copies from the NIH. There's a link to it on the BGDL website's medical page or just google Alopecia Areata from the NIH website.
It will all smooth out..... bumps along the way are not fun but are normal.
Thea
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