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My fiancée wants to know what is the likelihood this can be cured?
My alopecia areata started 6 weeks ago.. my bald spot is the size of my fist if not bigger. I'm all down with shaving my head but the fiance is a little hesitant. she thinks that there is some sort of magical cure. In all of my studying up on it I haven't really found anyone who has regained all of their hair and if they gained any is wasn't in a timely manner. There are a lot of "cures" and "treatments" but not a "cured" or "treated" ratio or percentage. What is the honest likelihood of my hair growing back? I'm currently getting cortisone shots in my head. Last appt was 62 shots. The bald spot has doubled since getting the shots. I just want to shave my head and get it done with, this is more or less a formality for my fiancée.
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Permalink Reply by Lori Van Decker on
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We can all only respond with our experience. I started losing my hair in spots at age 16 (back in the early 1970s). It came and went periodically. I wore a wig on and off until it all fell out when I was 34 -- and it and all my other body hair never really came back. My scalp, eyebrows, and most body hair have been gone since then. Eye lashes come and go, and there is always an errant leg hair that grows to ridiculous proportions. ;)
Life deals you this crap, and you cope. I can tell you that I've been married and divorced, and the divorce had nothing to do with baldness. It takes time to become comfortable in the skin you're in. It took me well over 25 years to be happy with universalis. I agree with JeffreySF: "love your bald self!" It's not easy, but the rewards are many. :) It sounds cliche, but if she has issues with it, it's most likely that the issues are HERS to deal with. 'Nuff said. Namaste!
And BTW, I'm now 55...still bald, and starting to have fun with it!
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Permalink Reply by Aaron on
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Now that the just saved feeling has subdued, I love it. Walkng out in the brisk fall air driving with the windows down, standing in front of the ac. Awesome.
My fiancée needs to get used to it, but I expected that. I was worried about my 8 month old playing strange. But I set her up in her jumper so she could watch me shave my head. At first she was a little upset then I let her feel my head. She started slapping it and can only assume she loves it. She wanted to be held by me all night so she could play with my head.
The only real negative reaction was when I went to mcdonalds tonight to treat the new me to some cinamelts. One of the girls there asked me what the he'll happened, so I explained quickly and they she told me I should just grow it back out any way. Whatever, I love it!
Thanks for all of the support and comments over the last day. You guys and gals made this a lot easier and fun!
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Permalink Reply by Lisa Santer on
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Hi Aaron,
Yes, go love your bald self. And love your fiancee. I'm so glad you brought up the topic of how others who love us adjust!
From my experience with a variety of serious health challenges and losing my hair, & watching others, I'd say adjusting can be as hard or harder for the people right next to us than for us. I have 2 big choices about what to do: figure out how to live well with the condition or kill myself. They have a 3rd: leave. Choosing to volunteer for a trip of pain and suffering can be pretty hard (and a rewarding choice).
Bigger than that, it hurts to see someone we love being scared, embarrassed, pretending they're fine to make others (maybe even us) feel better, in physical pain, or just involuntarily changed. It can be awkward for them to turn to us for support around what our bodies bring to them, and other people may not understand that they too are going through something hard, so where do they get their support? I think wedding vows often specify "in sickness and in health" because it is so hard.
My partner meets my very high expectations of his support and encouragement. I expect him to cope at his own pace and to be honest with me about everything, including how he's feeling about my health. "I don't know yet" and "I don't want to talk about it now" and a deflecting joke are good answers, if they really are time-limited. I hope you also have high expectations of your fiancee, and give her time to meet them.
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I'll give her all the time in the world that she needs to adjust. That is why I waited so ling to go bald. She's not wild aboutntye new do but she will come around.
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Permalink Reply by Carol on
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You look awesome! Way to go! I found it so refreshing to just get the hair out of the way. Now go have fun with it! :D
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Permalink Reply by Petra on
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Congrats on the shave! Hope your finacee comes around, maybe if she was more educated on alopecia she would realize that this is not a choice, but just something that is and we have no control over it. Sounds like your daughter likes the new look on your :-)
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I think she is starting to like it. She won't admit it yet, but she did sit on my lap and run her fingers through my hair... Lol
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Permalink Reply by MiNAH on
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Right now, there is no cure....yet the cortisone does work for some people. Although, it might not work all over the entire head, like me! I lost my long hair at 14. It all fell out at 19. I was AT until I turned 27. Then became AA, yet these days just shave. Enjoy ur new look..it's very becoming on you!
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Permalink Reply by tim kay on
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Aaron just go for the "big shave"! i had to do it years ago, and yes i exhausted all alternatives beforehand. Most likely if or when your hair grows back it will be from an internal change in your immune system and not topical medication. By the way, my hair did grow back after 3 years of shaving.
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