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Comment by Erich on April 7, 2009 at 3:20am

I am gay male, 45 years old and have had a partner for 7 years. Last August 2008 I had major trauma in my life. About 4 weeks ago I started losing hair on the back of my head, sides of my head and on all other hair bearing areas on my body. I went to my doctor and had all the blood tests for thyroid issues and all were okay. I went to my dermatologist and he said it was probably alopecia universalis. He said there wasn't any treatment without severe side affects. I am really scared to watch all my hair fall out. I really need a support group to help me through this as I feel so alone. My partner says not to worry about it as he will hang in there with me but he never wants to talk about it with me. I could really use some friends that can coach me through this.

Comment by Aaron on April 5, 2009 at 5:21pm

Very interesting point! Perhaps because baldness is such a striking look it has been adopted by various kinds of rebelious or counter-culture sorts...but what if it happens naturally and you don't want to be an artiste or rebel? It is only realistic to take into account the average expectations that people have, in order perhaps to simplify social encounters a little. In theory it is better for this to happen if you're a bloke, but sometimes I would just like to put a big wig on my head, lol!! It's a shame the inside and outside of my head had to disagree about their chosen look for 2009.

Comment by Aaron on April 5, 2009 at 12:02pm

Interesting question - I am gay so naturally there is perhaps more pressure to dress well and look good etc., certainly fashion is high on the priority list as is obvious in gay clubs. And as it is harder to come across potential soul-mates in everyday life, there is a little more pressure to participate in that kind of environment simply to meet people...One might have thought it fortunate that there are many 'boutique' gay looks around hairlessness as there are a multitude of bald gay men. Unfortunately, this often leads to overcompensating looks such as donning bomber jackets and boots, which frankly is a bit of a disaster as far as I'm concerned. Once shaved head can be misinterpreted as aggressive / skin-head genre of gaydom which is a problem as that is a 1000 miles away from my personality.

I think strangely some component of my hair loss may simply be due to stressing about my hair loss...is that possible? Although the overwhelming majority is due to genetics in my case, I have some additional 'projected losses' (sides of head for example) which I can't blame on my father. This stress I have about this is definitely linked to issues of self-confidence in being able to make a good impression on people on the gay scene - I could just get on with everything else in my life without it really mattering too much.

Comment by Karen Froehner on March 29, 2009 at 9:27am

My sexual orientation has neither helped nor hindered me with my acceptance of alopecia. What hindered my acceptance was my new husbands' remark of "had I been bald when he met me - he would never have approachedme to meet me." At that time, I had loss all of my hair about 8 months after we were married.
To make a long story short - I had been losing small spots of hair that could be covered over. This loss was occuring prior, during and post divorce of my previous husband and while dating the present hubby. As I said 8 months after the wedding - one morning I woke up to a massive loss on one side of my head that could not be hidden. So, I decided to just simply shave it all off after I literally ran to get a wig.
His comment was a dagger to my inner being that is recovering still after ten years of marriage. He now accepts it - he had to make a decision to stay or leave. He decided to stay despite my hair loss - "cause he is committed to me."
I feel having Alopecia has made me a stronger person. I am able to face life challenges more squarely in the face. Now if I can just lose the weight - tee hee...

Comment by Just Me on March 26, 2009 at 8:49pm

Hey, thanks for the invite!!!

Comment by Zoey on March 20, 2009 at 12:05pm

Hey Jeff, last semester I did a project for the LGBT Community here in Sacramento area to help Global warming..

Comment by Annette M. Perot on March 20, 2009 at 11:35am

Thanks for the invite.

Comment by JeffreySF on March 19, 2009 at 5:11pm

Nope I dont think so.

Comment by Przemek on March 19, 2009 at 3:59pm

am I the only gay in the village? ;)

Comment by Carol Solis on March 17, 2009 at 9:19pm

Just got done doing every test known to mankind to try to figure out this Alopecia thing,,I think it just is what it is,,right?? so how is everyone else out there in pretty bald people world

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