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Permalink Reply by Norm on May 28, 2010 at 4:45am

Hey the K, congrats on the date! See? Told you guys'll still think you're hot!
Anyway, to the point in question. I can tell you fancy him, but just treat it like it's a one-off. Don't think about other, future dates. If you just enjoy the moment, take it for what it is, don't start thinking along the "oooh, he said this/did that, wonder what he really means" lines, you'll have a great time. OK to have a contingency plan, though, so you're not caught out having to wing it in an awkward/embarrassing situation. So if something happens where the hair thing DOES come up - if he touches your hair, or asks, or whatever - just be truthful and tell him. Hey, he's a doctor... at least he'll know what alopecia is!! And he'll have seen stuff that makes your problem look tame... remember, a bald head is a sexy thing to have! Your issue is just letting others see it. Right??
And just in case the bald head's not to his taste, at least you'll know before you get in any deeper. Remember that if that does happen, it's not baldness that's the problem here, but rather his acceptance of it. Women and men are rejected by potential suitors for all sorts of reasons that other people wouldn't even notice... I mean, if he'd asked me on a date, I can come up with several really, really good reasons why I'd say "No" :)

So just get out there and have fun. But whatever you do, don't say, "What's up, Doc?" unless you've got big floppy ears and a carrot. :)

The Norm xx

Permalink Reply by Day Steel on May 28, 2010 at 10:24am

Hi I am nurse myself. You have to listen to youre herat simply. There is a lot of men and women who is most atrractive, inteligent and outgoing with or without hair.

You have them everywhere. This diseas makes people feel small and other people like to pick on us. They like to test how strong can he be. People in general likes to make you small becuse then they can take advantage of you in some way ...

You still have to think of the following. You have already accepted his date.

That means ...

He likes it to develop to something more then just smalltalk.

Do you have the same intentions and youre heart say so go with the flow if not .., and really if this is just for youre ego and selfesteem you should not go ...

Now the thing is you accepted his date wich means you simply have to go and deal with the good or bad that might come from this date ...

Normaly nurses, doctors ar any kind of person standing in power in that kind of professions should not get personal with their patient.

Thats normaly. You would not date one of youre patients would you?

But nurses likes to date doctors and doctors special males likes to date nurses...

Personal I do not care what people do if they do it after they listen to the heart ...


Day Steel
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Permalink Reply by John Ford on May 28, 2010 at 11:32am

"I guess i'll just go with the flow. It is nice to know that guys still find me attractive. " ...so what's to advise?? You figured it out all on your own. ;)

...and kiddo - for the record, you got attractive covered just fine. If I wasn't a geezer and you had no taste - who knows??

enjoy.

Permalink Reply by Artemis88 on May 28, 2010 at 1:13pm

Dude, rock on!
I am in the medical world too, and I like to think that if anyone can understand it, MD's can. But then again there are Doc's who smoke, soooo... ;-)
Anyway, I am a big fan of just go out on the date, and don't think about anything else. Enjoy yourself, allow him to see YOU.
I was on a date the other day and I kept freezing up because he kept fixing the bangs on my wig because they kept falling into my face. I was like "ACK! NO TOUCH!" but he never realized.
You don't need to say anything yet, and you don't even know if YOU will like this guy. I mean, it is about YOU too, right? He doesn't get to make all the choices! You are evaluating him as well. Never forget that ;-)
Good luck, have a brilliant time!!!! ;-)

Permalink Reply by Krissie on May 29, 2010 at 3:47pm

Thanks to all who replied....I LOVE all of you!!! I will let u all know how things are going. We exchanged numbers and have to set up a time....I'm just going to have fun with this. I'll be moving away soon so it really can't turn into anything serious. I don't think either of us want serious anyway.