Comment by Val on October 13, 2008 at 5:17pm

Hi Alexandra

Everyone is different, I have only been with my guy for 3 and a half years and I was terrified that he would up sticks and run off, but to my delight his reaction to my AA was that (as others have said on here) he loves me! not my hair and the cheeky bugger (Excuse the language) said that when I have my wig on it looks better than my own hair did anyway.
If somebody loves you, they love you for the person you are NOT the person they think you should be. In my opinion a man who leaves a woman because she loses her hair is as bad as a man who leaves a woman because she has put on a little weight. They must be so shallow they are not worth holding on to.

I also asked these questions but only in my head. Its great to know that there are so many men that realise that looks/hair is not the be all and end all to a person. Maybe they are not all from Mars after all.

Val :o)

Comment by Herne Steelegrave on October 14, 2008 at 12:06am

Greetings and salutations Alexandra...

I shall answer these questions even though I feel that they create a "lab rat" environment by classification for something I do not see....

1. "How do you feel about bald women? If your girlfriend or wife was thinning, would you encourage her to shave her hair off if it to preserve her mental health or leave it and let nature run its course, or would you try to encourage her to find a solution?"

My wife has universalis and does not wear a wig. I love her the way she is and have always felt that way. I see deeper then her hairline, or lack of, so it is difficult to bring this into the equation...

2. What do you love most about a woman (or YOUR woman, especially if she has some form of alopecia)?

On a personal level, it is an erotic factor that has a purity to it. In detail, you shall never know.....

3. Do you think bald women can be as beautiful as women who have their own hair?

Can they be is never an issue...each person lives in a reality that consists of likes and dislikes and the landscape is as individual as a fingerprint with each person making a choice based on personal taste. This has nothing whatsoever to do with what she looks like.

4. What draws you to a woman, and even more importantly, what keeps you with her? If your woman was bald, would you prefer it if she shows it off, wears a scarf, wears a wig, or have her do whatever makes her happy? What are your sincere feelings about women with alopecia?

My wife is perfect in every way... She wears no wig nor scarf and has a lovely tattoo on her head. She catches my breath and races my heart when I look at her. If anyone does not agree, I shall hope they do not voice their remark in any way or they shall soon realize how dangerous life has suddenly become...

Blessings,

Herne

Comment by Jim Escher on March 4, 2009 at 9:06pm

Dear Alexandra;

I am a man who has experienced a relatively mild from of alopecia areata. It happened ten years or so ago. A substantial amount of hair fell out from the upper back of my scalp. Somebody pointed it out to me. I looked like a man who was going bald at the back of his head. The area was the typical super smooth scalp. I got cortisone shots and the hair grew back. So, I have some idea of what it's like to start to go bald. while the hair grew back i struggled to cover the area with other hair but it never worked. I was bald there and there was nothing i could do about it while I waited for the hair to grow back.

Your question is whether we men will find you beauiful and desirable if and when you lose not only all your scalp hair, alopecia totalis bt God forbid youy develop alopecia universalis. My response is that I happen to love the look of a woman who has absolutely no hair, The fact is that I love her with a completely smooth scalp. But I love her with alopecia universalis, a completely bald scalp, no eyebrows, or eyelashes and no body hair. And, there are many men who also find this look very beautiful and appealing.

Look at the blog for "Laura". she has universalis. She never wears a wig, never draws on eyebrows or attaches false lashes. She is ssmooth from head to toe. She is also absolutely gorgeous, I mean absolutely.

The thing of it is that you will want a man to see you as more than your lack of hair, your smooth scalp and hairless body. Baldness in a woman is a very desirable characteristic but it is just that, a chacteristic. You must demand to have your baldness rolled into a loving relationship where the baldness is akin to the thing that first gets the man's attention in the same way as the beautiful thick long hair of non-alopecian women may be a hook for a man to first approach a woman.

I love bald women. I think they far exceed in beauty and sexiness any woman who has hair. It is an exotic look plus there are historical precedents for this female appearance.

In ancient Egypt, many women actually had all their scalp hair plucked out with golden tweezers until their scalps were as clean as an egg of any hair. Because al their hair was plucked ot there was no shadow on their scalps in the same way that there is no shadow on the scalps of alopecian women. After these women were plucked bald they had their smooth scalps buffed to a glossy shine. It seems in those days it was the women who had long thick hair who were considered the oddity while the proudly bald females were considered to be the desirable ones. Alopeicans women should consider themselves to be the true diesirable ones and the poor females with all that long thick hair to be lacking in exxential sex appeal. That is why more and more women with full heads of hair are now choosing to go bald.

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