Comment by Mandy on July 8, 2008 at 4:17pm

Dang, now I have that song stuck in my head! LOL.

Comment by Billie on July 8, 2008 at 5:44pm

Dang I do too now! or "Oh Mandy" LOL. First, HAPPY(belated) BIRTHDAY girl!! Secondly, I can completely understand how you feel as I thought the same thing almost 15 years ago when I was faced with being a single, "hairless", very self concious, dating mom.
Since then - I guess the most attractive thing to most of the men I have talked to today is that a woman who has herself together really makes them take notice. I guess the only thing I can say is if you are confident in yourself then the good ones will come and take notice of who you really are inside. Beauty comes from within. ;-)

Comment by Roger on July 8, 2008 at 5:57pm

Dont be sad Mandy =)

Hugs, Roger.

Comment by Dotty on July 8, 2008 at 6:34pm

OMG...Billie said exactly what I was thinking. You are absolutely beautiful. Your confidence is amazing and that is what makes you who you are!!! I met my fantastic husband when I was completely bald. It didn't even phase him a bit. We had talked online for a month or so, and he loved the person I was. It had absolutely nothing to do with my appearance. In fact, I wore a wig for the first month we dated because I was afraid that he would "run" when he saw me bald. Even though he said he was fine with it, I had to know myself that he really was. I had dated men that "knew" but when they saw my bald head for real, they didn't call back. Those are the ones that weren't worth my time!!! Brett is my soulmate. He tells me I'm beautiful all the time, and has been right by my side through all my recent trials and tribulations. I promise that he is not the only man out there that feels that way. You will find your soulmate when you least expect it. Until then my dear, you remain that beautiful, confident, intelligent, wonderful young woman that we all love so much, and love will find you!!!
Love and Hugs,
Dotty

Comment by Debi on July 8, 2008 at 8:20pm

Just because you wear a certain type of clothes, or make-up, contacts, sunglasses or a wig. You are still you. If you feel better wearing a wig then do it. Maybe you need to find a different one. Look into Amy's Presence cyber hair.

Comment by Mandy on July 8, 2008 at 8:39pm

Thanks for everyone's kind thoughts so far. I should probably add that I'm not sad and depressed about this. Just the usual lonely feeling, ya know? But I wanted to make sure it was known that I'm not horribly upset and thinking about jumping off buildings or anything. LOL. I'd like to stress that I am very happy with myself and therefore do feel I have great confidence. So I greatly appreciate the comments relating to that. I hope you're right and the confidence is all I need. ;o) I would be willing to bet though that fewer men will pay mind to a woman without hair and really I just think that's so sad. I guess that's the base of my thinking in this blog. It's just disappointing, ya know? But I hope that means when I finally do find someone to take the time to know me that I will end up with a far superior man because of it. Look at me...rambling again.

Comment by Cheryl, Co-founder on July 8, 2008 at 9:43pm

Hey Mandy, me and rj have this conversation from time to time. If group A would not consider a women with alopecia and group B are full of men that would consider a quality woman that has alopecia, then we should just pass by group A and go straight to group B. Looks are in the eyes of the beholder, what one person things is beautiful another may think is not. There are all sort of women out there, short, tall, small, large, big breasted, small breasted, thick legs, thin legs, blond, red, black, brown, blue hair, younger, older.... There is no universal standard, not all men like the same thing, luckily for all woman, alopecia or not! I can say without a doubt that there are plenty of men that are open minded enough to enoy and see what all types of woman have to offer. With me and rj, alopecia has never been a concern. rj is more concerned on how two people communicate (not necessarily agree on everything), but in the end how do they navigate those differences. So many different appearnances could fit that mold. Does he like my looks, absolutely! but not at the expenses of the other qualities he is looking for.

Comment by kastababy on July 8, 2008 at 10:31pm

Happy Birthday Mandy!!

Being 29, I know the feeling -- but at this point, I really don't stress it anymore. I figure someone will come along eventually, but for right now I'm not even trying to look.

I figured once you started wearing the wig that you wouldn't wear it for very long -- as hot as it's getting I would be stripping mine off too!! So have you caught any flak for the bandanas?? Keep me posted!!!

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