Balance

I have been thinking a lot about balance lately. As I look back on my life the things that seem to work the best and flow naturally were the areas that I found a balance.

When I concentrated on doing what was right for my body and indulged on occasion, it worked. When I tried to be too strict, I would white knuckle it for a few weeks and then fall off the “wagon” quickly. The same has applied for finances and many other areas of my life.

The same applied to my alopecia. When I found my way to live with it, in a way that didn’t require more than was sustainable to ME, it worked its way out. Sustainability -- that is the word that I am looking for. The only way that anything seems to work for me, is if it is sustainable. If I have to constantly keep struggling to maintain something, in the long run my fuel is going to run out and I will most likely end up worse than where I started.

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Comment by R0BB on August 10, 2011 at 8:42pm
Comment by Galena on August 10, 2011 at 10:32pm
A good message for all of us who are still working on balancing work and family. It's a daily challenge.
Comment by Cheryl, Co-founder on August 10, 2011 at 11:19pm
I just know that we/I get to a point that we feel we are losing "control" of something we tend to go to the extremes. Even in though in some areas we may never go back to what we were. IE: weight, age, hair.... there are times when we have to find and accept a new "normal" and allow ourselves some flexibility.
Comment by Susan P aka DGADBS on August 11, 2011 at 1:09pm
I guess that's why I never considered wearing wigs. I had too much to deal with when I lost all my hair and the thought of the wig then consuming my day was going to be too much for me to handle.
Comment by Tallgirl on August 11, 2011 at 5:26pm
Another part of balance is how we choose to see ourselves within whatever our value system is. Some put more emphasis on self as wife, mother, part of a culture, professional, role in faith community, based on income or artistic productivity/recognition, physical beauty, etc. Example: right now I am stressed out because I have lost my job, income and family. The past marriage and the hair actually do not bother me as much as these do. If I could be happy and fulfilled being a Medieval-type peasant and gardener, or town groit/counselor, then I suppose I would be ecstatic with my lot. But, media and culture has made me see my own worth as what role I SHOULD have now in the teaching profession, what lifestyle I SHOULD be living by my age, and how much positive communication I SHOULD be having with my children. I am judging myself as a failure these days after years of being a winner, and it hurts like L. So, I am hiding away. At least I can sort of use my counselor and teacher training on this site...but there is not balance in my life with no money for food, gas (thus, social life and church), outings, entertainment, supplies, yard care, art supplies, surgery. Oh, yeah...let's see if the phone, computer, electricity and water get to stay on all month. Loss of those, too, will be the real kicker!
Comment by Bald and Fabulous AKA Terri on August 13, 2011 at 10:51am
I agree on this completely and I found this a beautiful reminder
Thank you for that Cheryl
Comment by David B327 on September 23, 2011 at 5:49pm
Sounds like a pragmatic approach, though there's a lot to be said for the 'white knuckle' ride.

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