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Dealing with mean people
I've always said I needed the bumper stick that says, "Mean People Suck". Not to get too into the whole background of the situation, but my step-father has a not so nice daughter that lives in Texas (we live in Virginia) who only talks to him when she needs money. My step dad Rick has had enough of it and told her so yesterday. Now I've only met his daughter 2 times in person, but we have texted off and on for a few years. I lost my dad in 2007 and was kind of pushing Rick to have some kind of relationship with Nicole, because I lost my dad and thought it was only right. Well after yesterday, I realized Rick made a good decision. She asked Rick for money, he said no, because he has given her SO much in the past wihout even a thank you in return. She starts texting him calling him HORRIBLE names, and then brought my mother into it, calling her even worse names (a whore was the nicest thing she said). So I texted her telling her to keep my mother out of it and to leave Rick alone. She texts back saying my dead father is ashamed of me. Now I know all she was doing was trying to get under my skin, but how can ANYONE say something about someones dead parent/family member? I ignored everything she said after that, getting like 10+ more texts in an hour. I woke up this morning with 2 more text from 3AM saying "I hope you believe in God, because your going to need him." and ANOTHER thing about my "dead dad". Sadly AT&T doesn't allow you to block ignorant people unless they are actually threatening you, and then they STILL charge you a fee. I've been trying to not think about it all morning and she did exactly what my mom and step dad said to not let her do, she got to me. She can say ANYTHING about me, I could care less...but bringing my family into it got to me. There is really no point in this blog, only to get out what I'm thinking and how frustrated this ignorant girl has made me. Hopefully now that my whole family including my step dads nieces and sister are ignoring everything from her, she will just stop and get out of our lives.
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Comment by cindy Babs on December 7, 2010 at 10:35am
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Hi. Try your hardest to not take anything this woman says to heart. She is the one who should be ashamed and u know your stepfather is ashamed of his daughter . I have decided that mean people usually r just very insecure and in her case, unsecure financially as well. As utterly vicious as she was it's all her problem. She must b very desperate for money. Hang in there. :)
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Comment by Tamara on December 7, 2010 at 10:37am
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Thanks Cindy :)
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One can understand how deeply u loved your father from reading your blogs .he was extremely lucky and honored and I'm sure PROUD to have u as his daughter.
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Thank you, that means a LOT to me that you said that. i love my father with all my heart and miss him everyday. Especially with the holidays here now too.
I once again will say what I always have said, mean people suck! LOL
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I'm sorry ur missing your dad......I think time is the only healer. I hope u have some loved ones nearby for the holidays. Try to b brave. IT WILL GET BETTER.
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I do, I have my mom and step dad, my brother and my baby niece. I know it just takes time.
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I know I shouldn't have said ANYTHING to her at all, but I was pretty mad she was talking bad about my mother and Rick, just because he is tired of giving her money and getting nothing but a rude person in return. that's why I haven't replied to anything she said. I'm just a little protective over my family. They mean everything to me.
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Thank you Rose :)
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Comment by Norm on December 7, 2010 at 6:41pm
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You gotta be Teflon Tamara here.... let it sliiiide past. As soon as you respond in kind, you've lost the moral high ground. And who cares what she says or thinks anyway? She never knew your Dad, so nothing she says means anything.... and they're only words, anyway - they'll only hurt you if you allow them to. Let her waste her time and money, and laugh at her pathetic attempts to upset you. The best thing to do with people who throw tantrums is just sit and watch... they soon tire of it!
Be Cool, T! xx
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Comment by Tallgirl on December 7, 2010 at 8:38pm
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Having just gone through a family episode, I am thinking she is jealous of your relationship with Rick, knows she can't compare and is manic about this (odd hours, repititious, vile words, mean about death) because she needs the money for a drug or alcohol habit...or is mentally ill. I agree that you should cut off her means from contacting you. It is the choice of the others in your family what they do. Reporting her if she gets extreme is the option, too...put it in writing to her and have proof and dates for any legal proceedings in the future. Rick should NOT be supporting a drug habit. In the meantime, create a special shrine to your dad for the holidays. HE is the family member you could be thinking about instead of her this year!
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