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Give the World some credit :)
Hello everyone,
Never posted on a site like this before but I figure I should give it a go.
Maybe a little background is a helpful. I have had Alopecia all my life... haven't we all? My hair started to fall out when I was 11 and over the years has grown back and all fallen out again. I've tried almost everything (light treatment hasn't really excited me enough to bother with yet) but nothing has seemed to work.
So you might be wondering what the point of my post is... well here we go. Please give the World some credit. I hear all the time from people-on this forum or friends I know with Alopecia-that they have trust issues with people in their life, or not yet in their life. "I've never shown my family", "My partner has never seen me with out hair", "What will people think of me when they know I'm bald or going bald?". Seriously.... give the World some credit. In all the years I have been dealing with this I have only once had someone say something negative to me about my hair or lack there of and to this day we are still great friends (kids can be mean some times). Im not going to lie there have been times where I have been worried about what people would think but its never been an issue. Every boyfriend I have had since loosing my hair (thats every boyfriend I have had ever) has seem me bald. My family sees me bald when Im at home.... my mother jokes when i wear my hair at her place saying "take that off and stay a while". I have a girlfriend whos been with her boyfriend for 8 years and hes never seen her without hair! I think thats just nuts.
I know acceptance is hard, but you know what makes that easier? The acceptance of those you love and care for. They are your support and should be your rock... why not give them the chance to really know you?
This all coming from a 24 year old girl with no hair on her head, no eyebrows (ps pencil and eye shadow with a brow brush looks way better than just pencil), and no bottom lashes. I look funny and sick with out my wig and make up on, but my family loves me, my boyfriend adores me, and my friends support me. Please, please, please understand that there is really nothing to be afraid of.
We all have our fears.... mine was loosing my wig in public... well back in 2006 i was surfing in Australia... on the other side of the world and i lost my wig in a big wave. I was alone, no friends, no family, and no hair. I thought I would just die....but instead the "strangers" I was with helped me for hours look for my hair (to no avail) and those strangers became my friends. No one pointed and laughed or judged me. I survived it (and now some shark has a 1,800$ wig).
Give the World some credit... and if thats too hard, just try with your family and friends first.
Love you guys.... love yourself too :)
Never posted on a site like this before but I figure I should give it a go.
Maybe a little background is a helpful. I have had Alopecia all my life... haven't we all? My hair started to fall out when I was 11 and over the years has grown back and all fallen out again. I've tried almost everything (light treatment hasn't really excited me enough to bother with yet) but nothing has seemed to work.
So you might be wondering what the point of my post is... well here we go. Please give the World some credit. I hear all the time from people-on this forum or friends I know with Alopecia-that they have trust issues with people in their life, or not yet in their life. "I've never shown my family", "My partner has never seen me with out hair", "What will people think of me when they know I'm bald or going bald?". Seriously.... give the World some credit. In all the years I have been dealing with this I have only once had someone say something negative to me about my hair or lack there of and to this day we are still great friends (kids can be mean some times). Im not going to lie there have been times where I have been worried about what people would think but its never been an issue. Every boyfriend I have had since loosing my hair (thats every boyfriend I have had ever) has seem me bald. My family sees me bald when Im at home.... my mother jokes when i wear my hair at her place saying "take that off and stay a while". I have a girlfriend whos been with her boyfriend for 8 years and hes never seen her without hair! I think thats just nuts.
I know acceptance is hard, but you know what makes that easier? The acceptance of those you love and care for. They are your support and should be your rock... why not give them the chance to really know you?
This all coming from a 24 year old girl with no hair on her head, no eyebrows (ps pencil and eye shadow with a brow brush looks way better than just pencil), and no bottom lashes. I look funny and sick with out my wig and make up on, but my family loves me, my boyfriend adores me, and my friends support me. Please, please, please understand that there is really nothing to be afraid of.
We all have our fears.... mine was loosing my wig in public... well back in 2006 i was surfing in Australia... on the other side of the world and i lost my wig in a big wave. I was alone, no friends, no family, and no hair. I thought I would just die....but instead the "strangers" I was with helped me for hours look for my hair (to no avail) and those strangers became my friends. No one pointed and laughed or judged me. I survived it (and now some shark has a 1,800$ wig).
Give the World some credit... and if thats too hard, just try with your family and friends first.
Love you guys.... love yourself too :)
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Comment by Tallgirl on July 6, 2011 at 5:18am
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Love it!
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Comment by Debbie on July 6, 2011 at 5:21am
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Cheers to that!
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Comment by R0BB on July 6, 2011 at 5:40am
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YOU WROTE :
(and now some shark has a 1,800$ wig).
Now that , I got a kick out of !
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Comment by Jane on July 6, 2011 at 8:42am
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you've made me have a BIG SMILE...even though no one is around right now.
I agree so so much!
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Comment by Avi on July 6, 2011 at 8:49am
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hi, kate! i really admire your self-acceptance and respect your outlook. thanks for sharing (especially as a first post!).
i just want to underline the unstated obvious thing: everyone here has experienced different levels and combinations of positive/negative reactions from strangers or people known to them. if you've had even one significant other reject you expressly because of alopecia, if you've overheard even one (adult!) person ask another (adult!) person how she can stand being seen in public with you...your self-acceptance and confidence would be understandably shaken. everyone takes a bit of time to bounce back from such things and, again, everyone here is at different stages in this experience. based on your comment that you've only really had one negative reaction years and years ago, it sounds like you've had a lot of opportunity throughout your life to self-accept alopecia. and, you're right: self-acceptance means that we no longer need to use society's measuring stick to gauge our beauty or worth...which should be the end-goal for all of us, right? as frustrating as it is, it may just take some additional time to get to that goal for those of us who are newly introduced to alopecia or still feel the sting of multiple rejections!
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Comment by Karen Clendenin on July 6, 2011 at 9:56am
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You just started my day off right! Thank you for the inspiring words!!
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Comment by Alliegator on July 6, 2011 at 10:01am
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Love it!! I LOVE that your mom says "take that off and stay awhile". That is awesome and hilarious! Sounds like you have a wonderful mom. I agree, those you love should be your support and rock. They have been in my life for sure. You are lucky to have a boyfriend who adores you but why wouldn't he! :) This year I started going bald (just started shaving this year) around some of my family and it is great!
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Comment by Ktownnana on July 6, 2011 at 10:23am
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What a wonderful way to start off my morning. I love the comment your Mom made--how wonderful if everyone were that accepting. I'm new on the website and I already am finding that it is easier to look in the mirror and accept myself with a shaved head when before I joined I really had some issues. It's reading posts like yours that is giving me confidence. Thanks so much!
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What a wonderful way to start off my morning. I love the comment your Mom made--how wonderful if everyone were that accepting. I'm new on the website and I already am finding that it is easier to look in the mirror and accept myself with a shaved head when before I joined I really had some issues. It's reading posts like yours that is giving me confidence. Thanks so much!
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Comment by Devin on July 6, 2011 at 7:49pm
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I just wonder if all his shark friends are all insecure now because THEY don’t have hair?!?!
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