Good morning :)

Yesterday was my first post ever and it was such a great experience that i couldn't help but post again this morning.... I know its 10am, but Im a huge night owl and was up pretty late working on my bike.

A comment made on my blog yesterday got me thinking about love and Alopecia. One commenter said that "i was lucky yo have a boyfriend who adores me" they also added "why wouldnt he?" Of course those of us, like that lovely person, know that there is no reason why he wouldnt love me.... although you dont know my flaws yet ;) But then there are those who are new to the hair loss game and havent come to that realization yet.

Before I get to my words of wisdom heres a little story..... My mums best friend has Alopecia and has been bald since i was 6 (so almost 20 years now). She has 3 kids, a husband who loves her beyond belief, a good job, everything a little girl could want. I thought at my young age that she was lucky to have met her husband before her hair fell out because that way he loved her before she changed and would have a hard time not loving her after (give me a break i was 11). So when my hair started to fall out all I could think about was how i was going to hid this from my future boyfriends.... he will know when he runs his fingers through my hair, what about when i lose my virginity? he will for sure know then! I was petrified. But I was also 11 and had some time to get used to it before actually meeting my first love.

Its been a process becoming comfortable showing my bald head to boyfriends.... the first time i hid in the bathroom for 30 min while he was on the other side of the door trying to talk me into coming out. Now i make the decision to have the "i have no hair, yes i still have to shave my armpits" story and then a few days latter i flip the wig and everything is out in the open. Im not trying to say i have been like this with every potential partner, but when you know that one day you will love this person its only right for them to really know you.

So back to my point.... Am I lucky in love? You bet i am! But that isnt because as a bald woman it is hard to find the right person, but instead because there are 7 billion people in this world and I found the man im going to be with for the rest of my life. Was my mums friend blessed to have found her husband? Of course she is.... but she is just was lucky as any other person who finds the love of their life and lives a happily ever after. Look at it this way.... having no hair is a great way to filter out the jerks. Cant accept my smooth head? Well the go jump off a high bridge into shallow water.

But as it has been hard for you to come to terms with your Alopecia its also not going to be easy for potential partners.... even my boyfriend Chris was worried at first..."what is it going to be like?", "what if i view her differently?", "am i going to freak out?". So after i told him he spoke with this brother and he said "First off you seem to really like her so dont be too worried. Plus you get to have two girl friends, a bald one and one with hair!" (one day when i have money he will have a brunette one, a blonde one, a red head, and a bald girlfriend). I showed him and he kissed my bald head and told me he loved me. Im lucky to have him, hes lucky to have me.... but not because im "follicley challenged", but because everyone who finds love is lucky.

Happy hunting :)