I hate it when people say...

I'm going to preface by noting that I am at the beginning of my AA journey, and I do have a lot of hair left, but I am slowly balding.

I hate it when people say, "you can't tell" or "you look fine" (something I'm sure we all never want to hear, fine is such a lying word).

But -I- can tell. My hair itches and hurts at the same time. I can feel the breeze on my scalp for the first time in my life and its weir ding me out. My husband comments on how I look like a little boy (usually when I'm in my pjs and haven't showered because I have 2 little boys that endlessly need my undivided attention).

What do you guys hate to hear? How do you react?

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Comment by Leelee on August 25, 2013 at 11:57pm
Hi Amelia
I know the feeling. My 8 year old has it and people tell me that I should be lucky it's not cancer....that it could be worse. People are just insensitive. To me this is just as painful. That's what I hate to hear......that I'm lucky....it could be worse. :(((
Comment by beth piper on August 26, 2013 at 2:23am

My hair hurts at time too and that's usually when I'm losing it.:( I hate it when people say..."its just hair!" People that say this have hair!!! Its just makes me mad because they have no clue. I get the... "at least its not cancer too." I would be ok with something like..."I'm sorry you have to deal with that, It must be hard." I also hate when people say I shouldn't let It affect me so much. How can I not? Some people just don't know how to empathize of put themselves in others shoes.

Comment by Mindy on August 26, 2013 at 12:13pm
I am at the early stages too. I can't stand those words either. I just say well God blessed me with a lot of hair and it is strategically placed. I used to get my hair thinned it was so thick. Now it is thinner than when that was done. They don't know that I spent 20 mins just to get my hair so so and killed it with hairspray so it doesn't fly up in the wind. I also hate it when they say that it is going to grow back like nothing else is going to fall out. My husband says that a lot. I know he is trying to be encouraging but it isn't. He doesn't see all the hair that comes out through out the day.
Comment by Amelia33 on August 26, 2013 at 1:04pm
Mindy, my husband doesn't see hair coating my pillow either, and my mother in law doesn't see the clumps of hair coming out in the shower. Oh, and she blames it on me bleaching my hair highlights a YEAR ago...
Comment by Barbie on August 26, 2013 at 6:49pm
I hate it when my best friend tells me " who cares what people think!" Or when my husband says " your still beautiful to me". I know they are trying to be supportive. The point is it matters to ME what others say to me and think of me because if affects my job and self esteem. And when I don't think I am beautiful it doesn't really matter what my husband says because it doesn't feel genuine to me.

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