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Comment by Mary on October 5, 2011 at 11:31am

Lily, I felt so washed out and "not me" when I lost my lashes and brows...I had very dark natural eye hair. I got eyeliner and brow tattoos within a month of losing it all, and felt much better. The tattoos aren't perfect, but I wake up and can do exercise without feeling blank.

I tried the bald look in public in small steps...and slowly it just didn't feel unusual to me. I found that if I acted as is there was NOTHING unusual about me, other people tended to act the same way....no big deal. (Aside from the cancer questions which I don't mind anymore.)

Another thing that's helped me is having some nice photos that I like of me bald. When I'm feeling ugly, I look at one. Here's my favorite:

http://www.alopeciaworld.com/photo/hawaiian-black-sand-beach?contex...

Comment by Cheryl, Co-founder on October 5, 2011 at 10:44am

@Stephanie, a mate may still look at a blond or anything else. I believe that rj chose me because he didn't see my baldness as a deterrent. But it may not be his unique preference. Meaning that just because he is now dating me that he only sees beauty in bald woman. I see beautiful, blondes, brunettes, red heads and bald women/men. I guess my point is that whether rj shaves the hair off his face or not, I may have a preference, but I don't lose my attraction to him. I have seen very few people who have changed hairstyles and all of a sudden their "beauty" vanished.

Comment by Cheryl, Co-founder on October 5, 2011 at 10:34am

Tallgirl, I felt unnoticed for years too. My husband assured me that I was anything but unnoticed. More that I didn't notice what was going on around me.

I just fear that using the "It's the inner beauty that counts" does us a disservice. Even if we may not believe it ourselves I think we should be aware of the messages we are telling others about ourselves.

Comment by Cheryl, Co-founder on October 5, 2011 at 10:29am

Amy I agree with you. The features remain and in may cases may appear stronger.

Comment by Cheryl, Co-founder on October 5, 2011 at 10:27am

I understand that many alopecians choose to wear hairpieces. But in all reality if a relationship turns serious, there are going to be sometimes that a mate will see us without one. Be it bedtime, showering or god forbid we are sick, the last think we may want to deal with is a wig.

Comment by Amy on October 5, 2011 at 8:57am

I agree eith Cheryl. No, we don't have the hair we used to have, but we still have the same face!

Comment by Tallgirl on October 5, 2011 at 7:32am

I had felt unnoticed for years in ill-fitting brunette/auburn wigs, so I got bold on myself and started buying blond wigs in 2008, when I started a new college program (and when I was tired of dying my alopecia-white sideburns dark every month). Because many employers and others turn heads or remember blond women, I have finally been noticed. Also, I get a mall cosmetic make-over (free) before big events or on birthdays, and use THOSE photos on websites (take a camera along!). I look for nicer clothes at second-hand shops and yard sales, and am hoping to lose weight this year. Just because I lost my hair, it doesn't mean I can't still try to look professional or dressed-up for outings. Recently, I have tested out the shaved, wigless look when with good friends...with my decent make-up and earrings on, of course...and have actually received compliments. So...now I have more confidence either way.

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