Comment by Tiffany P on October 14, 2010 at 11:22am

Long time no speak glad all is well and very happy you had this blog because i was wondering about the very same thing your going thru. at this time i have no worries because i work at the hospital dont have to worry about my scarf but i was thinking of getting a holiday job but i worry about having to wear a wig and the questions they may bring because though i''m comfortable enough to tell the whole store i'm losing my hair i dont feel like repeating 30 times a day. anyway please keep us posted :o) oh you know whats irritating me is the fact that i'm coming across alot of women shaving their heads and loving it and yet we sit up here on this website crying, i mean granted what makes them carefree and us not is "choice" they can regrow their hair not us but darn it is the bald look in and we are somehow missing the memo?

Comment by Alliegator on October 14, 2010 at 12:06pm

I will keep you posted for sure. I'm sure I will have some interesting stories. :)
I know exactly what you mean! My Mom always says "it's just hair" but she forgets, mine isn't going to grow back. That is the key... it is not a "choice" for us. I have been trying to get the courage to go out in public bald. Maybe we are missing the memo! Lol.

Comment by Dominique Cleopatra on October 14, 2010 at 3:42pm

Going out in public bald is not "The holy grail of acceptance." It's not for me, and I'm cool with that (both literally and figuratively). Good luck with your job search. If you don't see your wig wearing as a job hinderance, I bet no one else will either. p.s. I have a better job, and make more money now than I ever did when I had hair.

Comment by Gail on October 14, 2010 at 6:18pm

I'm looking for work right now and the very last thing on my mind is whether the prospective employer I'm talking to needs to know if I wear a wig nor not. It's none of their business. If you get hired and get to a "comfortable" place with your co-workers, then by all means, tell them. I had an interview today and didn't even think about it. I have an interview Monday and it will be likewise. It should not hinder your job search in the least. Think about what's really important here. Job or wig disclosure?
Waiting tables? Eek, but I may be joining you there if I don't find something soon. I've been wearing a chin length bob style wig for the last year and have switched recently to a shorter layered wig. More comfy and less maintenance. Have fun with it and don't worry your pretty little head. Good luck with your search!

Comment by Alliegator on October 15, 2010 at 9:37am

You are so right Gail! It is none of their business. I'm more worried about how long it will take me to get to the "comfortable" place again because it is a nice feeling. Good luck on your interviews! I'm hoping to have one soon. Thank you so much!

Comment by Cheryl, Co-founder on October 15, 2010 at 12:34pm

I agree with Gail. I live in Detroit and I see black women with wigs, weaves, braids, headwraps... and nobody know or cares what they have under it. So I am hoping that it will probably be the same in your new workplace.

The fact that you are more comfortable now, may mean that it won't actually take you long to get comfortable in the new position either. You may actually find that you bounce back a lot quicker than you imagined. Sometimes taking us out of our comfort zones allows us to see just how much we have grown. Good luck and keep us posted.

Comment by Lexi on December 24, 2010 at 12:48pm

I know where you are coming from.  I have been unemployed, and when and if only when I do get an interview, I always wonder, should I wear a wig? Should I just wear my thinning straggly locks?  OK, if I wear a wig, I maybe better remember which wig I wore so the next interview (you know there are always a succession of interviews these days) should I of course wear the SAME wig?  I read Cheryl's post, and have one thing to say that I ALWAYS think..so sorry but true...I think, if I were a black woman, nobody would bat an eye because wigs, weaves and the like are so acceptable for them. They are accepted by everyone no matter what they are wearing on their head, or if they shave it all off. But to be a white woman..I guess we are expected to have nice hair of our own...so people look at us weird when we wear a wig.  Also, black girls have such natural looking wigs that are cheap.  They can wear something different every day, every week, every month, and nobody blinks.  I wear a wig out to a local store, and the looks I get....well, some of you know the looks I get.  Like wtf???  I tend to be uneasy in any interview situation thinking they are looking at me and wondering if I am ill or what the deal is.  I only hope we all get decent jobs in the new year...it is so hard, and like we need to be losing our hair and make it harder???  

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