Comment by Tallgirl on October 18, 2011 at 2:33am

But you are a dramatic teenage girl. I think I already wrote to you once...this is #2. After the third time, if people do not start trying to find help, solutions, fun friends or other alopecians to change the tune for themselves, I usually give up on talking. So...will you try some of the ideas I have offered? By the way, my high school had 3,420 kids in it, and I kept my alopecia hidden, without comments or clues, all four years with good wigs. Work on those positive things!

Comment by Eliza alisa abgail on October 18, 2011 at 7:16am

you know what my dear? the great thing about wearing wigs. is that you can tell people it is your hair? so if people do tell ya is that a wig? Act your heart out. OOOO MY GOODNESS WHAT MAKES YOU THINK THAT????? It is my hair... How can you say stuff like that.Put them in their spot. or yup its my hair do you like it? Is yours a wig ? it looks too beautiful to be real? And if you are looking over your shoulder then your wig ain't doing its job. You can be an undercover hairy person. If people can tell you its a wig.Then you need to improve on your disguise until its flawless.You are going into the movie business after all. It would an extra talent to have :D Get tips and look into options. And love yourself and your looks. And remember those you comment on others looks are insecure themselves. Why think about them... Be unique and be you every step of the way

Comment by Karen Smith on October 18, 2011 at 9:23am

I am sorry that you had a bad day! Realize that you may have alopecia but you also have an AMAZING TALENT.... WRITING.... I saw that you like dots. My daughter survived high school when her hair all fell out and she was a cheerleader. She is off at college and doing great. She has alot of friends and a boyfriend that is very accepting.If you need a good wig source message me. We get hers from China. Keep writing, you have a gift.

Comment by x3Awesome'TTx3 on October 18, 2011 at 1:40pm

Thank you guys! :)

Comment by Lili on October 18, 2011 at 6:44pm

Teisha I'm really sorry you feel this way and go through this, but I'm glad you're writing it out and getting the chance to vent. Just keep going and stay confident, when they see that you like yourself no matter what, they will give up eventually!

Comment by x3Awesome'TTx3 on October 18, 2011 at 7:17pm

Thank you Lili :) God bless you! :)

Comment by Elaine on October 18, 2011 at 8:58pm

You sound so much like me when I was in school. I used to experience the exact same thing. I would look over my shoulder constantly thinking someone would try to snatch my wig off. The gym bleachers were the worst place for me in junior high. Oh and my mom told me to use the same "pool" story if they asked about my wig too! I know what you're going through and I hope it gets better SOON!!

Comment by x3Awesome'TTx3 on October 18, 2011 at 9:36pm

Thank you Elaine im glad you get what I go through :) God bless <3

Comment by Rodeli on October 19, 2011 at 11:26pm

Hey, TT--been there done that and then some. I lost my hair very early in life and had to go all through my education with alopecia--wore wigs most of the time. I can totally relate. If it helps, I think Jr High was the worst; it was better in high school. Focus on the friends you have and try to get their support. If you are comfortable with any of them, why not ask them to come along with you when you buy your next week and ask them their opinio. Trust me, the suggestions of another peer can be better than trusting a salesperson or even your mom. I was really blessed to have a lot of friends, I was outgoing, and I didn't let the stupid ones know how much they bothered me when they did. After awhile, kids just didn't make as big a deal about my wearing a wig. There were far more important things to focus on or some other kid that was more newsworthy than my wearing a wig. Most kids didn't even bring it up or make anything of it. The key is to not let the few bullies know you are bothered by their stares, questions, or comments. Next time they ask if your hair is real or a wig, just smile and say something like "Sure is, and I've got the receipt to prove it." "Why do you want to know?", "What does it matter?" or say "It's my hair" and turn and walk away. Or you can smile and say "Yes, it is. I have an autoimmune condition called Alopecia which causes my immune system to attack my hair and causes my hair to fall out. Thank God it's now something I can die from like cancer though. If you had it, what would you do?" It might cause them to view you and their own ignorance differently. They may actually respect you for it and maybe want to learn more. It also might help to talk to your teachers and guidance counselors and get their support. Most times when I was picked on, which thankfully was not too much, was not while I was in classes--it was in between in the halls or at lunch, gym or something. But I often felt as you do. All I can say is get as many people's support as you can. It does get better--it really does. I had close to 5,000+ kids in my HS and it wasn't so bad. I just got involved in things I loved doing and after awhile kids just left me alone. They focused on the more important things about me. Not that some strange rumors about how I lost my hair didn't go through the school every once in a rare while--my favorite was that I accidentally washed my hair with Nair instead of regular shampoo and that made my hair fall out. Oh, the creative minds of youth. The best thing you can do for yourself is to not let your hair loss cause you to lose your self confidence and self worth. Easier said than done, I know, but love yourself and know that you are loved and don't let the few narrow-minded, butt-heads get you down. As you grow older you will barely even remember their names or even much of what the said/did. Email me anytime you want if you just need to talk to someone who knows EXACTLY what you are going through. In hindsight, having alopecia caused me to become a better young person. It made me look past the outward appearance of others and not be so quick to judge them either. I had all kinds of friends from different groups and cliques. You are a beautiful girl--don't ever forget that. Your hair is not your beauty. People will be more attracted to your inner strength, confidence, and kindness than to your hair or lack thereof. God bless.

Comment by x3Awesome'TTx3 on October 20, 2011 at 3:29pm

Aww im soo sorry! You dont have to say anything! You read my blog & shared your story thats more than enough! :) If you went to my school we would be awesome friends :) & I would be by your side & we would be like alopecia buddies :) Lol stay strong! 2 more years too go Sejuti! You can do it! :)

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