Comment by Amy-Rose on August 28, 2013 at 10:46pm

Personally, I like to tell people really early on. It's important for them to understand Alopecia and having to take off my hair every night before bed before it goes any further. No point in wasting time with someone for a few months who then turns around and doesn't like who you are when you tell them. If they don't like it from the start, they aren't worth the time of day. :)

Comment by Tallgirl on August 28, 2013 at 11:42pm

You can hand them a brochure from or link to www.naaf.org, then wait to see if they come back to start knowing you better, even knowing all this.

Comment by Connor013 on August 29, 2013 at 8:03am

Thanks! Its just hard cause I tend not to look at people in general the same cause of my disorder.

Comment by Kimberly Grise on August 29, 2013 at 9:54am

I've dated a lot. It is what it is. If they can't handle it. Oh well. I am up front with It right away. I've had decent luck. But I also don't attempt if I think a guy would turn me down or seems too shallow.

Comment by Connor013 on August 29, 2013 at 10:06am

True. Its just hard for me to even make eye contact cause of my eyebrows. This disorder has really lowered my confidence level.

Comment by mardy on August 29, 2013 at 1:58pm

people can be cruel...they view hair as the crown on your head..good hair bad hair.. it's like hair hair hair.. I get sick of people that take their hair for granted.. when I met my husband we talked for a couple months I told him I had alopecia areta.. well right before he moved her from another state it turned into alopecia universials.. he's always said I didn't fall In love with your hair.. he loves to kiss on my head . but this is just to let you know there are people out there that care and don't judge.. yes alopecia can be very depressing believe me I get it all the time.. I look in the mirror and I don't see me looking back it's someone that doesn't look like me.. I found that feeling secure and confident about yourself really helps..

Comment by Connor013 on August 29, 2013 at 2:20pm

Yea I try to be confident. That helps my depression but I just feel like no matter what I do it won't change the terrible feelings I get.

Comment by Cheryl, Co-founder on August 29, 2013 at 4:27pm

Hi Connor,

You may also want to heck out the excellent "Third Date Rule" written by Debbi Fuller a few years ago for advice on telling someone about your alopecia.

Comment by Connor013 on August 29, 2013 at 4:29pm

Okay that sounds good! I'll definitely look into it today.

Comment by Cheryl, Co-founder on August 29, 2013 at 5:25pm

I met my husband while I was bald. I was no longer wearing wigs and he thought I was beautiful. In fact in he refers to me as “the beautiful woman who just happens to be bald”. There are going to be those that mind and there are going to be those that don't mind. Your job is to focus on the ones that don't. You are going to have to try to get to a place that you challenge your beliefs about alopecia. Is it really true that people with alopecia do not date, marry, have children... this site alone is proof enough that it is not true.

I thought I would let the responses from the community speak to you. So, I have a few link you may be interested in read to help you: Happy reading!

Men who don’t Mind – This group is basically for men, but I believe whether you are looking for a man or woman the character and type of person that you are looking for should be the same. Feel free to join if you want.

It's our inner beauty that counts?

My cure for alopecia

When hair loss is not the problem

The beautiful, bald, and breathtaking survey: Again, although written for women it also applies to men.

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