"For most women, losing their hair is terrifying. It challenges their very sense of what it is to be a woman."
"Lisa Lefkowitz needed a group of women who understood what it was like to live bald. So, with the support of her hairdresser and friend, Emily Howard, who also lives openly bald, she founded the group SF Bay Area Bald Girls."
You can read more about her story here:
I really enjoyed watching the video, but it left me with two questions. How can anyone be bald and not be cold for much of the year (especially in the Bay Area)? Between trying to stay warm and trying to not get sunburned, even if I shaved my head, I would cover it most of the time. My second question is where does insufficient hair fit into this? I mean, I could shave my head and be bald (I tried it for a while), but what I really want is to be OK in the world with the hair I have. I don't want it to be a choice between wearing a wig or shaving my head. My wispy, white hair is my hairstyle, but I've never had the courage to wear it uncovered in public (though I don't hide and just held my head high when the mail delivery woman came with a package the other day when I was out in the garden bare-headed). Still it really resonates to just want to be as I am and be comfortable in my own skin.
So, its only hair is it? I would like to find a woman for once in my while life, in person, who is available, that thinks that way or, who I will actually hear say that to me. One problem with me is that I hid under a wig for 35 years until I finally took it off 10 years ago. It did not give me the courage to ask out enough women because I figured that if I asked someone out and then I have had to tell them I wear a wig and have no hair at all on my body, they will/would have been, turned off. So I have not taken enough chances. But when I have, every woman that has turned me down for a date, has said that I am a great guy to know, but that they don't consider me attractive enough or that they are not attracted to me. And, I did not have the time or place where I could say, well, one reason you may not be, is that my face also lacks eye brows and eye lashes, which one cannot hide. I guess I'll never know what some of the responses would have been. However, there have been plenty of people I have known for years, who, when I asked them, "didn't you notice I have no facial hair eye brows or eye lashes? They were amazed that they did not notice these things missing from my face. And some other people I have told said they noticed right away. In any case I hate to admit it but I will turn 61 on Feb 18th and I had a girl friend or relationship in my whole life. I lost my virginity to a woman I met from a dating site on the internet back in 2004 when I was about 48. And that was it. So, even though part of my aloneness is due to my lack of taking chances, I still maintain that it is my baldness & facial hairlessness that has left me in this position. And when people tell me that, it's what's inside that counts. it makes me cringe, because I have never ever been able to acquire a relationship or even a date, just because I am a great guy. What's inside is vital of course, such as chemistry, compatability, mutual interests, values, personality, intelligence, etc. But if someone is not attracted to your outside, then your inside alone is pretty much useless. No one knows this better than me. And I resent it. Mark Hansen
Mark, I also resent having to listen to a load of empty cliches and trivial twaddle! Most of the people who say that it is only hair, have a full head of it! However, it has been my experience that at age 61, an unattached male is usually considered a hot commodity (hair or no hair). Unfortunately, females my age (68) are often considered excess baggage even with a full head of hair (LOL!). So maybe it is time to take a few more chances, but only if YOU decide to do that. Best of luck.
I will be 74 next month. After I lost all my hair in the spring of 2015, I was in shock. After the shock wore off (about 6 weeks) I was able to embrace being bald. Bald is beautiful! I do not like wearing wigs so I just go with the natural look. If people stare it must be because I am so beautiful hehe. I wear hats to both protect my head from the sun and to keep it warm in Air Conditioned rooms and during the colder months. It is so easy to cool down in the aerobics class all I do is sprinkle my head with water. I tell the ladies in the class they should try going bald, its a lot easier to stay cool.
This is cool ROCK it any way YOU CAN!----- Amin Monterey CA and love this area!
Thanks for making this post. I was not aware of this Bay Area group. I will look up these Beauties!! I see very few in my community who walk around looking like me. Although I do have an awesome funky hat collection-they are only for the cold mornings and night air. I lost my hair 9 yrs ago. I found this site last year and it has been a great support to me. I would love to meet with others!! Thanks again.