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Will Smith Slaps Chris Rock after he jokes about Jada's alopecia
Will Smith punches Chris Rock at the 2022 Oscars after he made a joke about his wife's alopecia. Will Smith said "keep my wife's name out of your mouth!"
What are your thoughts?
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Comment by Kathy on April 7, 2022 at 11:34am
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Well said Picdubois, could not agree more.
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I also developed AU later in life, although I developed Alopecia Areata early (age 24). It always resolved on its own until age 60 when it became diffuse, then age 65 when it turned AU. I am glad that you are able to handle it well, and that Chris Rock's remark did not bother you that much. But while AU is horrible for anyone, I do think the ramifications for women are very different than they are for men. Split nails? Yes, that is a problem with myself as well, along with no nose/ear hairs, no brows/eyelashes or body hair. While I too am fed up with Hollywood antics and would like to see more medical investigation into treatment and a cure for our autoimmune disease, if we allow comedians to give the impression that our disease is not a REAL disease (therefore, worthy of jokes), that will never happen. We need help and support, not being the butt of tasteless jokes. Yes, Will Smith must be held accountable for his actions, but I refuse to give Chris Rock a free pass. His "joke" was discussing, and I can't help but notice most of them supporting Rock have a lovely, full-head of hair.
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Meant to say "disgusting", not "discussing". Edit comment does not seem to be appearing here.
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Comment by Picdubois on April 7, 2022 at 1:51pm
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I agree that women are more concerned with hair loss, and just hair in general. My late wife had cancer for twelve years, outliving her chances of survival four-fold, but that also meant more rounds of chemotherapy than most, and the resulting hair loss. She claimed the hair loss was the worst part of it! I told her bald was beautiful, but she would have none of that. I never saw her hair loss; it was always under a wig or scarf, and she put it on/took it off in the bathroom with the door closed
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So very sorry about your wife. She must have suffered tremendously. My husband is a retired university science professor. I am not sure he has even noticed my AU yet! If he had, his comment would likely be "Have you done something different to your hair". LOL!! Gotta love those hard-science guys!
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Earlier Statement:
3.) Will Smith exhibits that actions have consequences, has admitted to that by what he's done since what happened, and by all the people ready to burn him at the stake.
4.) The lack of any consequences for CR's actions post slap proves that consequences are only for some people.
I swear I'm changing my name to Cassandra.
So more messages Will Smith's 10 year exile (?!? WTAF?!) to the desert of the Academy of Motion Picture Arts & Sciences sends:
1.) Still OK for somebody to make fun of somebody's medical condition; "don't worry, Bro! Wink, wink, nudge, nudge! We got you!"
2.) "If somebody does defend me because of my alopecia, they'll get punished for it."
3.) "I can't say anything about my alopecia because people will be too afraid to come to my defense in any manner."
4.) "If they find out about it, they will humiliate me and make fun of me and call me a freak." (This still brings me to tears. My mother was right. Adult me has been trying to comfort 10 year old me for the last two weeks over this one... And I don't have anything to say to her. So like some sort of weird, reverse Rapunzel, "mother knew best.")
5.) "Whether I decide to wear a wig or not, people will diminish what I'm going through - and those people will include others in the same situation I am."
https://www.complex.com/pop-culture/ricky-gervais-backlash-defendin...
My late husband (also a scientist - mathematician -) never saw my hair loss, although I he knew about my alopecia. I told him about it as soon as we started dating to give him the chance to leave if he "didn't want to be married to a freak". He put a ring on it, so I guess it was OK.
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Picdubois, you sound like an amazing , supportive husband. Your wife was lucky to have you.
Dollhead, is it possible you are projecting on your friends. I am mortified about my alopecia but I talk about it whenever possible because I hope and have found info that helped. I've never had anyone make a joke and treat me like a freak. Do I feel bad about myself and how I look? yes. But I can't put that on my friend. I would never show them my real head but I find talking about it makes me feel a tiny bit better. And I too work very hard to hide it from my husband but thats on me, not him. It has to be MUCH harder to have this disease as a child but I can't imagine your friends at this age are heartless enough to make fun of you. If they are, you should try to surround yourself with kinder people.
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Kathy - Thank You. I was lucky to have her - she spoke 7 languages and we traveled extensively in spike of the cancer and its various side effects. I would love to share a before picture when I had a full beard and long hair, until about three years ago. But my Alopecia does not bother me much, no shaving, beard trimming, hair comb/brush - there are benefits for a guy. If you are familiar with the I Ching, a recurring conclusion in that ancient Chinese text: "No blame." We do not choose to be born, any more than we choose to be sick - no blame. We have impressions of others, and they have impressions of us, and our interactions are part of another trigram with conclusions to be determined by the wisdom of our consciousness...
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Wisdom-an ongoing challenge that few of us fully achieve. Especially Me!
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@Kathy - You're missing the point here. I don't choose to talk about my alopecia to "normal people". That's my business. If talking about it works for you, go right ahead. That isn't for me. When I finally did come clean with my alopecia, my friends were very supportive. The issue here is that the choice for Jada to acknowledge alopecia or not on was taken away by somebody making a joke about it.
I really don't get the disconnect here, and I'm tired of trying to explain it. I'm out.
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