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Comment by Versida on March 31, 2022 at 3:00pm

While folks have been mentioning the word alopecia repeatedly the surface of the condition has barely been scratched, and those of who have been navigating life with hair loss haven’t really been heard or seen.

Whether you are bald or have thinning hair or wear wigs we have all experienced the stares, whispering, giggles, unsolicited comments and/or advice from those we know and don’t know. And while we may have wanted to slap or curse out the offender we don’t, often we internalize it.

We understand the psychological and social toll, having dealt with and in some instances continue to deal with issues surrounding our confidence, identity, image and femininity…the struggle is real and people outside of our supportive circle need to know this.

We also know how what we couldn’t control has empowered us…alopecia made us more confident, strengthened our since of self. Many of us see what once may have been a curse as a blessing. All sides of this condition need to be known, who better to tell it than us.

Together we can keep the topic of hair loss in women in the forefront so that the next woman knows she doesn’t have to walk this road alone, and that the next 12 year old little girl like Rio will know that ending her life isn’t the only choice that she has.

To further awareness I hope you’ll help with amplifying the voices of women with alopecia by sharing a selfie video of your thoughts on this and/or what you want the world to know about alopecia. Collectively we can become a force to be reckoned with.

Upload your video here: 
https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1otVCDvcm4k6v-bHnIOfz8TQjI8M...

Thanks,

Sabrina

Comment by Jade on March 31, 2022 at 1:28pm

@Kathy, someone is labeled a bully when someone else felt bullied by something they said or did. Being a bully is a subjective label. I don’t see why it is wrong to label someone a bully when in fact so many people including the person who it was targeted (jada) felt hurt by the comment. The comment is labeled a joke because it was said by a comedian. You say humor needs to be preserved? That assumes that humor is being destroyed. In order to destroy something it has to exist, and in this situation-obviously so many people did not find anything funny. Humor is subjective. People can feel pain or hurt by something but that also doesn’t make someone a forever victim either. Jada/some of us feel they were the “butt” of the joke. I agree with you about if no one is talking, no one is listening no one is learning. I think that is exactly what is happening, everyone is talking, but are people listening? It is okay for everyone to have their feelings, opinions, perspectives. Nothing is destroyed, when people are respectful at hearing all sides, instead everything is gained. We as people should be able to tolerate people having feelings, it is part of being human. Not everyone will feel the same and it is all still valid. Will Smith was human when he reacted the way he did. Chris Rock was human when he made that (in my opinion) a terrible joke, all the people including me are human for feeling Jada’s pain and understanding Will’s response, you and others are human for believing it was not a big deal.  We are all human and co-exist in this society, the best we can do is try to get along and sometimes that means being uncomfortable and disagreeing. 

Comment by dreamscometrue on March 31, 2022 at 12:56pm

I doubt it, Im looking at it from a place of I know exactly where he's coming from,  exactly how Jada must feel, as a person of the Black Community who understands the issue from that perspective, as well as having watched Chris Rock and his documentary and then people making him out as a victim.  There, I just filled your empty space, now see if its enough for you to process. That is, if you care to look. 

Comment by Kathy on March 31, 2022 at 12:50pm

Perhaps, but is it possible you are looking too hard? 

Comment by dreamscometrue on March 31, 2022 at 12:46pm

@Kathy, its apparent you are missing the point, in its entirety.  You keep saying comedian, joke, whats the big deal?  To me its clear you are looking at the situation as someone who only saw a clip, and has a very limited understanding of what happened, WHY it happened, the depth of what happened, and the bridge to a deeper more important conversation.  If you cant see its perhaps you arent looking.

Comment by Kathy on March 31, 2022 at 11:19am

I can’t see how a comedian is a bully? I don’t buy into this victim mentality. Not every joke is funny but it’s not like he went over and slapped the woman. And I never saw Rock call himself a victim or anyone on this platform victimize another. They are just opinions and they are bound to differ. If no one is talking, no one is listening…if no one is listening, no one is learning. And we need to at least preserve humor even if it sometimes misses the mark. 

Comment by SabineTawni on March 31, 2022 at 9:27am

VERY well said, Dollhead!!   I am disappointed too with Hollywood's response.  But I am even more disappointed with the response of some of our members who appear to support bullying.  It makes me wonder why some of them are even here.

Comment by Dollhead on March 31, 2022 at 2:32am

CR, the person who did a whole show called "Good Hair" about Black women and how it is for us in the community and on issues with hair, made a joke that victimized a woman in front of the whole world. And has the nerve to call himself a victim.

It was an easy fix; just don't go there. Maybe now these so-called comedians will think twice now.

Comment by Dollhead on March 31, 2022 at 2:23am

I am so sick of people who keep saying "it was a joke!' or "it's only hair!" I have been so upset and depressed at people's responses. And CR acting like a victim with his BS on "I'm still processing it." And comedians patting themselves on the back in what amounts to a big circle jerk and fake disdain. It's all a case "Eff around and find out." Don't people realize - just taking WS out of the equation for a moment - that if CR had said and done that in any other workplace or on an academic campus he would have been in a come to Jesus meeting with HR? If it had just been Chris and Jada and he did that in an office, that would have been harassment.

So basically Chris Rock gets rewarded for his behavior with sold-out shows and "we love you, Chris!" and all the other BS. He's not the victim here. He stuck a fork in an electrical socket and found out the results of cause and effect. Would he have called Senator Ayanna Pressley a cue ball or chrome dome in the well of the Senate?

When I first was diagnosed as a little girl, my mother sat me down and told me to not tell anybody I wore a wig because if they knew, I wouldn't have any friends, people would call me a freak, and nobody would want me. It looks like she was right. Regardless of whether I wear a wig or not, people can get away with doing things like CR did on Sunday night and have people go, "oh poor baby!" WS has apologized for his actions - haven't heard SH^&T from CR except how he's been victimized.

Comment by SabineTawni on March 30, 2022 at 10:47pm

I agree.  I also get very frustrated with people who think it's our job to teach others how to act.  They should know how to act!  I love it when someone actually criticized Jada Pinkett for rolling her eyes at Chris Rock's comment.  Are they serious??  What was she supposed to do? Sit there like she was in a coma?  So, now I guess we are not allowed to react at all to rude comments about our condition.   If one more person tells me, "it's only hair", I am going to do a Will Smith on them (LOL!). By the way, who is Martin Lawrence?  I've never heard of him.

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