Dilemma

I had planned to buy a wig, not a pricey one or anything that I'd wear every day, just one to get me through a week at home over Christmas. I'm mostly OK with being bald in public where I live now; it's a pretty laid back city and I work in a very bohemian shop. But my family live in a very small insular little town (from whence I gleefully escaped earlier this year) and the thought of going out bald there gives me a whole body shudder. I'm pretty confident, but not that confident and I can't just hide indoors with my friends and family the whole week.

However. I am broke. I checked my bank balance over the weekend for the first time in too long and I'm really, really overdrawn and haven't even really started on Christmas presents. I've an appointment with an NHS dermatologist in January where I should get a prescription for a wig. Should I just suck it up and keep to hats, save my money and wait for the NHS wig, or accept that having a half decent wig for the holidays will make them that bit more enjoyable and less scary and/or stressful?

I really shouldn't spend the money, but I don't see my family often and I'd really like to be able to feel a bit happier going out when I'm up there. What d'you reckon?

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Comment by Mary on December 7, 2009 at 1:08am
Beautiful scarves.

Hope it goes well. Does your family all know about your AA?
Comment by Cal on December 7, 2009 at 5:25pm
Thanks for replies, guys. The dilemma has been resolved by my amazingly wonderful friend offering to pay for one on her credit card and have me pay her back gradually. She is an absolutel star, that one.

Which is a huge relief, as unfortunately hat and scarves just wouldn't cut it out in the shops and pubs at home. It would be their problem if people reacted badly, but it would also be my problem in that it would spoil what should be a lovely, happy relaxing time with my family. They know I'm bald now and have been amazingly supportive, it's not them I want the wig for. I'm quite happy to be au naturale in the privacy of family homes and am mostly OK with family photos being taken of me sans hair. But that particular bit of the outside world is just not the place to embrace the baldness, sadly. I also don't want to leave my family with sniggerings and whisperings after I've flown back down south again.

So, wig it is. I'm so, so lucky to have such an amazing friend. She's coming shopping with me on Friday and we'll have a good giggly trying on session.
Comment by Melissa Harris on December 8, 2009 at 12:20am
Cal, I hope whatever you do, you will feel better about it! I just finally ordered a wig and I think it will work out ok. I don't know if I will wear it everyday or not, but at this point I feel like it's my security and I have it anyways. I haven't started wearing it yet because I need to do some modifications to it, but I will post a picture when I get it back and let you know how I feel about it. Please keep us posted on your journey! I'm excited for you too! Thanks for the post! Melissa
Comment by Lee on December 8, 2009 at 2:15am
What a nice friend!! ; )
Comment by Andrea on December 8, 2009 at 7:26am
Bless your friend indeed!
Comment by Mary on December 8, 2009 at 10:57am
That's wonderful, Cal!

Wouldn't it be nice someday (perhaps after we've had 20 years of National Bald Out Days) if a woman can go into a pub or shop bald and excite no more interest or comment than a bald man does today? I can dream, can't I? ( ;-)
Comment by Lyndsey Pitchford on December 8, 2009 at 11:00am
That would be lovely Mary, a very nice dream. And Cal I'm sure you will look lovely wig or no wig but its best you do what makes you feel most comfortable. Have fun choosing and post us a piccy!

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