How to compliment someone with alopecia?

As a non-alopecian, I'm curious: If people would like to compliment your "look," how would you like them to do so? I mean, if it's specifically your "hairstyle" or lack thereof that they like, what's the best for them to tell you this without offending or upsetting you?

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Comment by JeffreySF on November 12, 2009 at 11:31pm
Nice!!!
Comment by Pamela Rosse on November 12, 2009 at 9:42pm
I have just started venturing out ah natural more & more often; on this particular occasion I was leaving a doctors appointment. Riding down the elevator, it stopped & a gentlemen stepped in, he too was bald, we smiled & acknowledged each other, the door shut & the the elevator continued, then this strong deep voice said, hey, looks good on you girl. I thanked him & told him he had made my day, he just smiled & winked & said your very welcome, the elevator doors opened & we stepped out, said goodbye.
When I reached my car, I sat there for moment, looked at Heaven above & thanked the Lord for sending him my way.
Comment by Stephanie on November 10, 2009 at 11:58am
If it's someone you know who has recently developed Alopecia, respond to him/her the way you always have. Personally, I am very sensitive about people treating me differently since I feel that I am still "me". As mentioned above, a genuine compliment is always appreciated.
Comment by Pamela Rosse on November 8, 2009 at 2:51am
I have just started going out ah natural a bit more often. I have had two memorable experiences with people.
The first was at our local Target store, I stopped in to pick up a few things, as I was looking at the movie section a group of special ed students came through, one young man looked at me & as he began to speak one of the teachers came over to step in if need be, but it was not needed, he said "hey lady, I really like your hair due, it's really neat, maybe I should do that, you look really pretty" I thanked him. His teacher looked at me & said the nice thing is you know it was honest & came from the heart. She was right.
The second was one afternoon I was leaving from a doctors appointment, as I was exiting a gentlemen & I met eye contact as we noticed we were both bald as a bean, we then smiled at each other, he then said looking down at me ( I'm a shorty) " looks good on you girl, have a good one" I thanked him & wished him a good rest of the day as well, because he certainly had made mine.
Comment by Cheryl, Co-founder on November 8, 2009 at 12:32am
A lot of times people come up to me and tell me that my "hairstyle" really suits me. I like that since I feel that my alopecia/hairlessness has become me to the fact that it just looks natural on me.
Comment by Mary on November 8, 2009 at 12:16am
Be honest.

Mary
Comment by Marianne on November 7, 2009 at 11:24pm
My favorite compliments have been how pretty my hats are or how flawless and beautiful my skin is. I've also been told I have a nice shaped head :) You can always tell when someone is saying something from the heart :))
Comment by JeffreySF on November 7, 2009 at 11:19pm
I like it when someone asks if they can rub my head for good luck.

Jeffrey
Comment by Tenille Gee on November 7, 2009 at 11:09pm
Really, anything that is sincere. Anything that you say from the heart. I have had people say, "you know, you have a nice shaped head" or the funny ones are elderly people who think it is really strange for a female to have a bald head and could easily be taken aback by it have come up and said, "you know, bald suits you" I wore a hat once over to my Dad's house, shortly after I shaved off what I had left of my hair and was still a little uncomfortable with being bald and my Dad said, "why the heck are you wearing the hat, looks much better without" Since then I have hardly worn a hat, unless I am trying to prevent a sunburn. That comment meant the most to me because my Dad had a really hard time with the fact that I was going to shave it and seeing his little girl with no hair was almost as emotional for him as for me. But he made me feel beautiful by telling me that I didn't have to cover it up. It's all what you say from the heart, whatever you truly mean, is what you should say, can never go wrong with that.
Comment by Carol on November 7, 2009 at 3:47pm
I think back to this one woman that I ran into a while ago. It was mid-summer and she was covered in thick, black, curly hair and was sweating up a storm. She saw me and snuck up behind me and commented "I would so love to have your hair style right now". When I turned around I could tell she was hot, I smiled and told her it was convenient. It was a nice compliment without coming on too strong and it's always a boost for the self-esteem when someone wants something you have or don't have in this case ;)

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