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What he said today...
I'm usually not a mushy person, but I had to post this, mostly for women who are concerned about finding love with this condition. I developed AU a little over a year ago. I have been dating John since June. I told him pretty much right away about alopecia. He seemed fine with it. I slept in a wig with him, (which was itchy) because I wanted it to be a smooth transition. I didn't want to force it on him right away. I wore the wig to bed less than a month, and i said I can't wear it to bed anymore, and he said O.K. I STILL wear hoodies (even though he tells me I don't need to) to bed. Anyway, I talk about it a pretty good amount, and he is beyond supportive and he tells me all the time that he really doesn't mind. He reasearches with me, he even looks on this site with me. Today, he said, "You are so cute without hair". And it just hit me as to how wonderful that comment was. Nobody has ever said that to me before. So...just goes to show...there are good men out there and you can't let this crappy disease stop you from gettin one ; )
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Comment by rj, Co-founder on December 22, 2008 at 12:05pm
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Lee, I'm truly happy for you that you're dating such a gentleman. I wish the two of you a lovetime of bliss, wisdom and prosperity and invite John to join Alopecia World's group called Men Who Don't Mind. :-)
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Comment by JeffreySF on December 22, 2008 at 8:05pm
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Hi Lee,
Your bf sounds like a keeper.
Jeff
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Comment by Sharon on December 22, 2008 at 10:21pm
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WOW that is so cool what a neat guy you have there! I really hope my beautiful daughter lucky enough to find someone as awesome as that. Have a wonderful Xmas.
Sharon
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Comment by Lee on December 22, 2008 at 11:36pm
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Thanks everyone! ; )
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Comment by Marisol on December 23, 2008 at 12:00am
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I'm very happy for you! I hope to meet someone just as supportive and understanding as you have.
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Comment by Alexandra on December 23, 2008 at 8:34am
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Lee,
I'm so happy for you that you found such a positive influence in your life! It can be difficult enough having alopecia to begin with - at least in the beginning - but being surrounded by negative energy can really bring a person down. Once again, I'm very happy for you that you're with a warm hearted man, and best of luck in everything! You're beautiful!
Alexandra
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Comment by amanda~ on December 24, 2008 at 1:22am
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Lee,
It is so good to hear that nice things like this happen to people. I have one strong recommendation for you...please be sure to let him know that you truly appreciate what he said and how easy he's been about your feelings and uncertainty. I know that when I was dating my now fiance, he said something similar to your bf. I told him how much I appreciated his ease and caring and support. He explained to me that he was a bit nervous about how I'd take his support. He said that it was good to hear that his words were accepted and did not cause any further discomfort for me.
I just think that sometimes people need to hear that what they've said has made a positive impact on our lifes. Give back support I guess.
All the very best.
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Comment by May on December 27, 2008 at 7:35pm
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It feels so great to be comfortable with your partner about your Alopecia... I totally get your shyness to letting him see you bald. You are beautiful, and as some people say men are more attracted to ladies who are confident with all themselfs, good and bad.
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Comment by Karen on December 28, 2008 at 2:09am
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Thank you for sharing your sweet story. My alopecia has worsened quite a bit over the last year and I just can't even imagine a man that would accept this (not to dis all the wonderful men out there). It's so engrained in women to be beautiful physically and let's face it, our hair is a part of that. With it going, it's just been easier to avoid the whole situation. In fact, I avoid most any social situation I'm invited to:( So I'm thankful for your inspiring story.
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Thanks everyone...and Amanda...I did let him know, right away, how sweet that was of him. He's been really good about the whole thing. It's weird because I always had kinda bad luck with men...then i got AU and I figured now I am really screwed...and then I started dating him shortly after...life works in strange ways ; )
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